I met this guy online a month ago, we see each other once a week, and I find myself like him a lot, I feel more and more smitten with him (no sex at this point). We are not exclusive, and I think it’s early to have the talk anyway. Another guy matched online asked me out on a date, and I feel guilty about going. Can someone help me overcome the guilty feeling I have? 🥲

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Aww this is so pure. Don't stop applying for roles until you have an offer.

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Same - i was exclusive with my wife after our first conversation 😅 i strongly believe if you really click with someone, you just want to hang out with them

You don’t know what your original dude is doing when he’s not with you so why not continue exploring til you commit? Life is short

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Well an affair with a chat bot right😅

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I don't get this and I'm gonna go against the grain here. You like this guy. Why not have the exclusivity talk with him? Who said it's too early?
And while others may say he might be seeing other people, guess what? Maybe he isn't! You found something you like, instead of going for it, you want to go against your feelings (and guilt) and go on a date with another guy. It's not like the first guys said no and you're trying to explore other options. I just don't get it.

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Came to say exactly this. She will play the field, get her emotions confused, signal to the guys through action she’s trying to have fun vs. serious (which is nothing bad), and the guys will take the cue and treat the relationships with her as such. But then she’ll come back here and say things like “men aren’t serious”, “men are dogs”, etc. Where all that was needed early on was just to have a conversation, see where things stand with the guy she already like, and make a decision from there.

The US dating culture is absolutely bonkers. This whole belief is there’s always someone better out there and I have to keep my option set super open, is part why.

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I dont get the US dating scene sometimes but I always asked for exclusivity early on

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I agree - maybe we are just too old

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If you and the first guy haven’t talked yet about being exclusive, it’s fair to assume he is seeing other people. If you go on a date with the second guy, you are not lying or going against any kind of agreement with the first guy.

I was in this same situation myself a few times- I ended things with one of the guys after things got more serious with the other one.

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This is the way dating is supposed to work. That's what makes the decision to see someone exclusively is kinda nice and gives people that "Oooo" nervousness and warm and fuzzy feeling.

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You should go and keep your options open. You’ll notice you don’t like the original guy as much as you thought 😂☹️

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I see him still updating his dating profile😅 so I think he is still exploring options. I do feel a little hurt tho 😅

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Thank you both! I will have the conversation when I see him tomorrow. It’s either go deep or go home 😅

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