I moved across the country for my boyfriend and I think I’m going to break up with him this weekend.

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Well hopefully you moved west and not east!

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@RGA1 not prying, no worries! We’ve been together for 2 years and going through a rough patch. We literally don’t make time for one another anymore. I thought moving would make things better, and it did for awhile, but he’s started running hot and cold again. We don’t live together, we have trouble communicating, we haven’t had sex in months (sorry if TBD) and I voice these things to him and he doesn’t respond. If none of these things can be fixed, I feel like this relationship is going nowhere fast. It’s not that he’s incapable of seeing me, we both work from home, he’s just stopped putting in the time and effort. And I’m tired of being in a one-sided relationship.

I love him, I want to be with him, but I feel like I’ve tried everything I possibly could and am still coming up short. I started having dreams about how angry I am with him, and I think that was my tipping point.

It just sucks. Sorry, to go on a rant but that’s what’s happening.

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@OP - you sound awfully well informed and rational about it - kudos to you for the introspection and self honesty it must have taken just to be able to get to the point where you can explain things so well as above. Find yourself a partner who matches those aspects of yourself and you will have a partner for life.

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@OP I totally empathize and understand where you're coming from. I ended a long term relationships because I felt like we were running in a circle when it comes to communication and moving the relationship forward. Made the hard decision to end it 3 months ago. It's been really hard emotionally but I find comfort in knowing ultimately I made the right decision for my life.

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Cmo1, yep. I say this as a dude living in New York.

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Ouch... well it sounds like it's time to move on. Sorry to hear, but I wish you the best. And I hope your enjoy where you moved to even if it wasnt your plan to move there.

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R/GA A thinking of making the NYC move myself...

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So OP, if we're allowed to pry (i think that's how the bowl works? ) why the breakup?

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Never settle! You’re doing the right thing. You deserve happiness.

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@OP - been there. So sorry, it sucks. You are a brave, brave person for doing this. Sending masses of hugs and good luck xxx

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Big hugs. Went through something kinda similar many years ago. Sucked real bad but it was definitely the right move.

Yes! Dish anonymously girlfriend, why the breakup?

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