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After the Skype meeting can we get some meeting minutes sent out? πππ
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Yeah, I'm really sorry this happened, but it's for the best. You've both gotta be invested for the relationship to work, and this goes double for LD relationships.
Blow off a Friday call unless *you* need closure, but it's done. If he "feels different" later, he needs to know you're not going to wait around by the phone for him for whenever he changes his mind. He can come crawling back with flowers and wine if he wants you back - only then when you *consider* taking him back.
Be strong and true to what *you* need. And you do not need a wishy washy long distance relationship that makes you constantly doubt yourself and is a net negative in your life.
Take care of yourself and try not to overthink something you can't control, like his attitude
Sorry OP... it sounds like your gut was telling you it's that time but your heart wasn't ready to hear it. Always trust your gut. I've learned that the hard way.
Completely agree with A3 above. You owe him nothing more now- so a follow up call isn't necessary.. focus on yourself.. spend time with friends and family... go out... just invest in yourself and definitely vent/ cry/ yell, whatever you need to help you during this time.
I partially got closure a couple of weeks ago on a relationship that was over 13+ years ago. Completely over the person and the relationship but the closure still hit me hard. Give yourself time to grief and rebuild yourself.
Your FB fam is here for you!!! ππΌ
good idea. Is the breakup imminent? Not sure what to do from today (not talk till Fri?) and how hard this is going to hit me...
Thanks all. Holding back tears in office. Better now after deleting all photos and texts. Someone suggested an amicable end on Friday in case I need to reach out for referral in the future. Wise π, thoughts?
^ agreed. Risky
I was in an LDR for about 4 years. We are engaged now. It will work if you want it to but it is indeed tough. We both had qualities that we knew would be hard to find in another partner which helped us realize the value. We talked every day. We never really Skyped/FaceTimed much.
Skype meeting ? Setup? Is he in the country ? Just give him a call in the evening ..ask him what's up. It sounds you make it very formal ...like a meeting with the president. Take it easy :)
If you initiated the "let's talk about the relationship" discussion/meeting, he may be scared *you* want to break-up with *him* and maybe he's freaking out about it? You could send a quick text to him to say how much you love/care about him, and you just want to talk about how he's feeling and how to make the relationship work.
@FC1 domestic LDR! (i've done worse lol) He gave me a call yesterday and said he was exhausted. I wanted to set aside a weekend when we are not as tired. Not a presidential meeting π
Sorry OP ... been there before. Vent. It'll help.
If "he" feels differently? Bad sign. Relationships are two way streets and one person doesn't set the rule. Sounds like this ones over
OP... so sorry to hear. Totally understand if you feel upset but you already have the right attitude. "WTF". Nothing we say will make it better right. So agree with EY1 : Vent! And screw Friday. What is the point unless you need to divide property.
Is this guy a co-worker? If so, I'd be pretty hesitant to use an ex as a reference unless we parted on super good terms. That's just asking for trouble.
No need to burn bridges or anything, but I wouldn't count on using an ex for a job reference.
It might be nothing and you are reading too much into it. If your boyfriend is more introverted he might not need constant contact. Put more faith into the relationship. I was separated from my husband when we dated for close to 4 month (pre-Skype, pre-SMS era). Happily married for a long time now.
OP. Google this: confirmation bias
@A1, EY2. Thank you for the advice! Trying to hold myself together at work right now.