I spent the last 1.5 years of law school on “Zoom University” due to COVID (although I was technically at HLS). I feel like I left HLS with no close friends and am now working in Big Law in NYC (my firm totally cancelled our summer internship cause of COVID) and feel like I have no friends at work. I’m trying really hard to connect with people but it’s so damn difficult when I’m an outsider to begin with (first generation student, colored women, etc.). Just wanted to share - but

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Network! Join an organization! Volunteer! Whatever brings you joy is where to start. Especially in the best city in the world.

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I moved to NYC when I started my career and had to make new friends. Here is my advice:
- first I looked up things in the city that I wanted to do. And I did them. Alone. Don’t wait for other people to live your life. If there’s something you want to do go out and do it. Most of the time I made friends or talk to people along the way.
- I made my adult friendships through friends of other friends. If you have any high school/college friends who may have a relative/friend that lives in NYC, try connect with them.
- Find interest groups. Back then meet up.com was still a thing but now Facebook groups are excellent. You may even find some communities on TikTok or Instagram. Like to brunch? There may be a group for young women of color who brunch. Want to hike? Look up hikers of New York. The possibilities are in less.
- Give it time at work. I’ve learned that it takes about one to two years to really open up at work and make friends. Don’t force anything. Just be your authentic self. Be friendly. And when the time feels right ask a coworker out to lunch and then happy hour.
The thing that I love about New York City is that you will always find yourself in some random fun if you are open to it. Just get out there and do you and you will attract people. Be intentional about connecting with people until eventually you find your tribe. Good luck!

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🤗 hugs

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- I would be grateful for any advice on how to create a less lonely life :(

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Look for organizations catered to new people in the city or young professionals

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first gen hispanic here! i graduated in 2019, but i feel like i’m in a similar boat. i have a few friends that i see every few weeks or so, but i’m missing that solid core friend group that you talk to regularly. it’s so hard to make friends at this age, and new york can be lonely. feel free to dm if you ever want to chat!

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If it’s a big firm they most definitely have volunteer or community outreach events. Find them and go even if you think the events sound meh. This is one of your best shots at forming connections.

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I am also going through something similar! Do you have a solid core of friends from HLS that you knew in person? Can you set up a semi-frequent virtual movie night with them? Add in some buffer time to connect before and after the movie and use Teleparty to watch the movie together. My friends and I also sign in to Zoom so we can watch each other's faces.

It's not much but it helps until things open up more.

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Join meet up groups.
I run FB social groups as well based on the interest of the people I have connected with.

I know it's a norm to wait on others to create opportunities of friendship. I highly recommend making your own through organic connections with people.

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Join a boxing or MMA gym, health benefits physician mental and emotional

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Dating apps?

Bumble BFF or Her. May look into hobby groups if you have the time

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Bumble has a networking side that’s for meeting friends. Also, join as many professional organizations as you can.

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