I was asked to make a recommendation on a director and did so, making sure to explain why they were the best choice for the job.

My boss responds after hours with a slack that implied I minimised their understanding of the topic and belittled them by explaining my rationale and choice.

How do you react / respond in this situation?

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I’d apologize and say the rationalization wasn’t as much for them, but what they’d be saying to the client.

Still super weird and insecure. I love team members who can break down and explain their decisions. That’s how you sell creative work.

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Even better!

Super weird. My inclination would be to send a simple and casual "sorry about that, didn't mean it that way". But could also see just ignoring it and enjoying the strange imbalance of emotional power you have over your boss.

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I'd let them sweat it a bit by not responding straight away. Sounds like they are a bit insecure. Then follow up with a simple 'apologies, that wasn't my intention'

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Tell that insecure child if they want to curate the director list with you, then you need to have a pre-convo before you get asked by producers. It’s not your fault they didn’t dig your choice. That’s a structure problem not a you problem.

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It does seem like they didn’t dig the choice. That’s a whole other problem.

“Hey bruh, my bad. I totally didn’t mean to patronize or anything. Just tryin to give my POV. Not sleeping well lately, and f’d the tone big time. Sorry ‘bout that. ‘L never happen again. Super stoked about this oatmeal spot tho, Gondry’s gonna fukin kill it.”

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I’ve had bosses that have asked who my reco was and what I wanted them to say in the meeting.

This is an extreme overreaction. Just say you don’t like to assume anyone agrees with you so you always give a rationale. Then move on.

They were probably having a bad day and took it out on you.

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This person sounds insecure but since you’ll likely have to keep working with them I’d grab 15 minutes to discuss live. Say something like “that my intention, I was simply trying to answer the request to provide a POV. I’d love to understand if there was something specific (tone, words used) etc that might have made this come across as condescending without my realizing it”

Point being a professional frank conversation about it will tell you everything you need to know about whether your boss is an insecure blowhard or there really was a genuine misunderstanding. (My hunch is the former based on the fact they addressed via teams chat but you never know, you may end up learning something valuable about their communication style and yours)

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