I would hope people are mature enough to mention this, but at what point do you feel that your friends are just stringing you along in plans because they don't want you to see them hanging out without you? I feel like in group texts, my texts often go ignored, and when we're together, I'm not often spoken to. Or could I be completely wrong?

Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Why are sibling relationships so complicated? We live in the same city. 23M w 21M bro in same city. We’ve always clashed, got closer in 2016-2019, then in covid started fighting and not being close. 2021 summer we got into some bad fights where he said some hurtful things that made me kind of hold a grudge until our fight in September. 2022 we’ve gotten a lot closer and only minimally clashed but still even tho we share personal things sometimes and have more mutual respect, cont

How did you make friends when you moved here?

Realizing that I am way too old for nights

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

Not sober currently. But think about it.
What happened to all your mates when you stopped? Did they dump you (because you make them feel guilty for drinking)? And what if your wife drinks too?

Is the Bella Vista area a safe place to live and raise kids?

My family cat that I grew up with got put down yesterday and I have sobbing in between meetings. None of my friends are pet people so they don’t get the sadness. Just saying it somewhere to feel better.

I have been in the US from Canada on contract for the past 6 months. My fiancé and I were supposed to get married and move here permanently in the fall. She has now called off the wedding, and has told me she doesn’t want me to move to the states. I got a great offer. Great job. Don’t want to lose the love of my life but I feel played. I worked so hard for this. She’s ripping out my heart, and taking my livelihood away. Am I wrong to not abide by her choice? Ask for the ring back?

Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

I feel old and tired with all the family responsibilities since I was a teenager. Often I feel exhausted emotionally and mentally and then I pick myself up to move forward as I don’t have an option to quit. Who can I blame? None. 😢

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

Any NYC 🐡 that would let me borrow their doggo for walks?! I am so missing my old guy, but can’t adopt a new one due to work ☹️

I am overly stressed that my parents are visiting and staying with me for 5 weeks. Paid them for a cruise but still have 4 weeks. I am dreaded to live with them 4 weeks without social engagement cont'

Dear Nappily Ever After,
No one has an office, much less an assistant. Creative and account are different jobs with their own dress codes. But dumb, off brief ideas by white creatives do win.

Single black female. Late 30s, no kids. Is it better to practice in a smaller market that’s close to major cities, lots of professional opportunities, but no real single professional scene? OR be in a bigger pond/major city with more professional and networking opportunities, oversaturated with lawyers of color, more competition for professional opportunities, but bigger dating pool?

Can anyone tell me what first year KPMG audit seniors make in the DC area?

Hi! Does anyone know what kind of knowledge is needed to crack the Data Scientist interview at Google?

I'm currently working in Marketing Analytics (primarily using SQL and a bit of pyspark). Apart from mastering SQL, I wanted to know from people working at Google what does it take to get there as a Data Scientist? (I'm very interested in Strategy Ops)

I plan to another 6-8 months in preparation and upskilling myself before I even apply.
Any help and guidance is appreciated! Thanks :)

Are there a lot of openly gay male soldiers?

Any idea what salaries youd be looking at working for a placememt agent? PE, RE, private debt etc

Hi,
I am seeing Offer Extended in the portal against my application.
Does that mean approval by business if yet to be done but extended by HR or something else ?
And how long after this current status can I accept offer letter?
Thanks

How long are you typically on the phone each day? My phone time has steadily increased throughout the pandemic to around 6 hours per day

I am an automation engineer in the automotive field with 7 years experience with at least 50 successful integration projects. I want to ask for a raise. What tools can I use to to compare my salary to see if my compensation is fair.

I am currently working as a delivery manager for a data science project where I manage both ML and DE teams. I am not sure what career path should I follow.

Should I move into either a core technical data science/data engineering role or move into a techno-managerial role like a program or project manager? What role would be best in terms of money, growth, and job security?

How did everyone do in their exams?

Does paid internship in Canada, that relates to my degree count as work experience for express entry? This internship was not required for me to graduate.

Is it better to try and look for a job in Canada or apply for PR?
I am currently in the USA and want to start job hunting. I don’t see a future for myself in the USA and want to move to Canada. I have an EAD and my spouse has an h1b.

My superiors are asking me to contact CEOs of debtors to chase payments. We’re in B2B and payments are usually 30 days or more. As soon as we get someone over that and they don’t provide a payment date, I’m being asked to contact their CEOs somehow and demand payment. I think it’s dumb, will hurt the relationship and I also don’t want to ruin my reputation. Thoughts?

23 year old consultant looking to meet fellow ambitious and like minded friends… moved here recently. Any recommendations? Living in south end

My interview is scheduled with PS, i have 4+ years of experience as Automation QA. My current CTC is 9.81 how much can I ask them now?

Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?

Really appreciate this bowl - and this barely matters - but the cover image is quite off putting.

I’m not having harmful thoughts but I’m so sad and scared I wake up in the night crying. It makes me tired and I can barely focus. Ideas?

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

Struggling with identity now that I’ve finally, truly accepted depression/anxiety are medical conditions I need meds for. I love who I am on meds, but I hate feeling like that isn’t “the real me."

I burned out months ago and now I’m just in a rut. How do I fix this?

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

K so. My bf just told me he is an atheist. I knew he wasn’t super religious, but our talks before made me think he atleast believed in some sort of afterlife. I know everyone has their own opinion..

Can anyone recommend a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist in NYC? Manhattan or Brooklyn preferably

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Its my birthday. And nobody knows at my work I feel a bit awkward also first birthday I have to be all alone :/ . New city any ideas to celebrate myself ?:D

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

I live alone and work for myself. Having horrible productivity issues right now. Its a cycle of procrastination and shame. Horrible mindset to have while trying to “create”. Working out hasn’t helped

I know this seems small, but my team ignored my birthday this week while celebrating two others. It’s not like they didn’t know - it’s my 2nd birthday celebrated with this team. Feels horrible.

Would it be bad if I change my start date? I proposed to my employer a start date 2 weeks after I quit my job, but now that I think about it, I feel like I need a week to recharge before starting a new job.

I need help. I'm dealing with multiple losses in the same week and having a hard time... I took some time off from work but I have no motivation to do anything. I don't want to go back to work and don't care about my work right now. I want to quit but I don't want to make a rash decision but need a long break. It's also not fair to my team that I can't give it my 100%. What can I do?

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.