If you go out for dinner with extended family, how do you end up settling the bill? One of my cousins feels it’s not fair for one person to pay, but I know there are others who don’t mind and will pay the bill for the entire table. How do you handle it?

So I want to marry a physician (girl) as they make good money so I get a good life plus decent retirement. Is it selfish to marry someone for money???

Hello kindergarten teachers I have a question for those in the New York area. I have a son going into kindergarten in a few days. My question is what knowledge is he expected to walk in knowing?

How many couples here where the husband/male SO is younger than the wife/female SO? And what if the age difference.
To start..I'm 34 and wife is 36.

Pregnant with our first and my husband was wondering - any resource recs for soon to be first rind dads? Either talking about pregnancy, baby, or both?

I have a friend who told me he sought treatment for alcohol abuse 6 mo ago. We talk a lot and I try not to judge or ask too many questions about his progress, just wanting to be a supportive friend who doesn’t pressure him. Today I brought him to a very laid back picnic… there was drinking but plenty of non-alcoholic alternatives, and it was a very chill group. Toward the end of the day I noticed him drink something. Should I have confronted and stopped him? Should I bring it up now? Guilty now

Recommendations on an exceptional career coach who can help my husband? He works with his brother at a startup his brother founded (my husband is in-house counsel) but often finds himself belittled by his brother, cut out of conference calls and emails and generally feeling like he has no skills. He's an ivy league graduate and went to a great law school but for many reasons cannot leave this job right now. Looking for someone to help w/his confidence level and ways to approach his brother. TIA!

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Happy wife happy life is a really toxic saying. I’m just shocked how this has become the standard saying for men in relationships. I have friends of mine saying this all the time, and I have just thought it’s so cringe and always want to say my thoughts on it but always decide to hold back. However, imagine the saying reversed - happy husband happy life - that would lead to all kinds of uproar. To me happy wife happy life means I need to sacrifice my wants and needs to make my wife happy.

Anyone start a new relationship before business school started? How did it work out?

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Would you break up with your girlfriend if she doesn’t want kids and you do.... this has been weighing on my mind a lot recently...

What would you do if you didn’t need money? I have a fair amount coming one day and don’t actually need to work to live a good life (middle / upper-middle class). I work because of this vague notion of “ambition” and because everyone I grew up around is highly competitive and hard driving. I just feel unhappy so often and am wondering what this is all leading to. Scared I’m wasting my life being unhappy / in turmoil cause it’s what my culture wants me to do.

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

My AMAB 10yo told us they are non-binary. Any thoughts, advice, resources for parenting enby kids?

Hey fishes, i am an assistant professor in MBA, with 5 years of experience i want to change the domain and company. What's the best way to switch domains.

Anyone start a new relationship before business school started? How did it work out?

How is work life balance, benifits, hike, bonus and salesforce project at KPMG global services??

Billables are low this month. Like I have 65 billable hours in so far. I’ve messaged partners over the last week to try and get more cases but there are tons of new associates who were just onboarded and were at a low point for business. I’m freaking out

Looking for an IT recruiter (2-5 year's exp) on a 6-month contract in Chennai/ Hyderabad/ Mumbai. Let me know if anyone is interested or any leads

I wanted to get people's opinions on leetcode, codewars etc when prepping for interviews. I am a junior full stack dev looking to move to a better paying junior role or a mid role and honestly these style of questions have always stumped me. I have found that in a year of work to have never found them useful in tackling real world issues. Now I'm moving from a junior to a mid can I still expect leetcode style questions?

I work mainly with react, TS, node, graphql, mongoose and mongoDB.

Just saw a posting by a recruiter on LinkedIn - great opp for those who would like to work remote! DM ME If interested: “Big 4 Senior’s in Texas- looking for a Senior Accoutant for a rapidly growing, pre IPO industry leader in Austin, TX! Open to candidates who want to relo OR work 100% remote! Position is on the INTERNAL REPORTING side. SEC Reporting a plus for assistance purposes only (team focused, highly collaborative environment), but not the primary requirement of the role. “

What’s the pay rate for Full Time for Senior Integrated Producer - 10+ years of experience. Job is with agency and client is in tech.

I got offer from HSBC HDPI , gurgaon for Gurgaon location. Offer is 13.50 lacs for manager Role....
Please help me to understand how much hike I should expect and bonus.
My joining is in end of Oct hence am I eligible for anything..

Hi, I am in search of a job with Profile Storage administrator for Bangalore location. Have a relevant work experience of 5 years in NetApp products and troubleshooting. Currently working working as Sr. Technical support Engineer for NetApp project with location Bangalore

Please contact me if anyone has any reference

Director of sales looking to move into a remote (WFH). The quality of life was so much better during the pandemic that I do not have an interest in going back to the way it was (current company's stance). Any ideas on suitable roles as most sales director jobs require travel?

Thank you

Hi everyone! My names Diana & as a new account manager I’m having a hard time building up my clientele, it seems a lot of companies aren’t up for as much contract work as there used to be. Any tips or companies you may know that would be good to go after? I work for a technical recruiting company and we specialize in contract (otherwise things would be a lot easier) please reach out!

Tips/Nuggets for switching departments within an agency.

Best agency in NYC for strategists?

Run Joe Run!! Run Joe Run :)

Hi,
I got selected in another company and they want me to join in 30 days. But in TCS notice period is 90 days. I am in client billing. Will TCS has a buyout option? Or will they reduce my notice period to 60 days?. Any ideas plz

Hi Fishes, need your advise.
I got an offer of 9 LPA and my current CTC is 6.22LPA.
I am confused whether I accept the offer or reject it because now a days there is no calls for interviews.
Please help me.
YOE : 5
Functional tester.

Jummah Mubarak Fam ☪️💚

In light of everything that is going on, I would like to quote a simple yet powerful line from Prophet Mohammad (SAW) last sermon, in which he (SAW) says:

“A white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over a white – except by piety and good action.”

Age? Gender? Location? Fav food for suhoor and iftar? GO!

Any tips on where to buy cotton that’s not from Xinjiang? It seems like all cotton comes from there ?

Have bad allergies and need to wear 100% cotton.

Anyone talk to a Muslim therapist? Muslim matters because I’d like to talk about marital issues, and not sure others will get the religious context. NYC preferred. TIA!

Anyone willing to give a referral for IBM and Deloitte canada, I am a new grad and looking to start my career in consulting

I was just laid off. I feel lost, feeling both pumped up for the future but pained because I was a high performing, straight laced, and by the book team member. Looking for Muslim leaders who are recruiting. Extensive experience in strategy and implementation of Data and RPA technologies. PMP and RPA developer certified. SQL, R, Python, UiPath, Agile, waterfall.

Chewy TUMS: These look so good but its not clear to me if its halal. How do you determine from these ingredients? Especially when the first ingredient is alcohol ammonium which i know its not alcohol but any clarification on these ingredients would be appreciated!

How do you single 🐟 find time to meet people and get to know them when working these crazy hours? Feel like I'm putting that part of my life on hold due to my job, and it's kind of freaking me out 😣

Jummah Mubarak Fam 💚

What has been difficult for you in the endeavor to complete half your deen?

Are there any nyc muslim matrimonial services?

Fam - Looking for a place/room to rent in NY metropolitan area, please let me know if anyone has a place.

Accenture, you good mate? Too much turkey?

What are peoples thoughts on working for a Banking Company in a Product or Tech role? I know there are mixed feelings since it’s not working directly with interest, etc.

If you currently work in banking, what was your reasoning (besides pay)?

If you don’t, would you ever accept an offer if it in a Tech or Product role?

Dang, sorry I meant to comment on the post!

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

Salam. My cousin’s newborn son is going into surgery today. Please make dua for his recovery and remember him in your prayers everyone 🤲

Thinking this is the year i iA find someone, prayers for all of us single 🐟 wanting to take that next step!