I’m scared. I have a hard time letting go and I’ve only had people give up on me despite how hard I try. I’m scared I’ll never find the kind of love I crave. And it’s something I need to somehow make peace with.

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You’re deserving of the love you want. Bad people have made you think you don’t. They’re wrong. They don’t know how to love. You do.

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🫂 ❤️ you’re enough!

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Sending you love.

Why do you think people give up on you?

Sorry to hear this, Op. Fear is corrosive and unnecessary. I’d suggest reading “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer, I think it will help you immensely! Take care!

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