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Hi Londoners ,
Moving in from outside UK.
Looking out for some areas in west / NW London where one can live with an infant on max 1400£ rental while requiring one partner to travel to Central occasionally for work and the other person 3 days a week to LHR.
Some Qns:
1) Will 1 Bedroom be too cramped for the infant to grow up? Should I raise budget?
2) I prefer being in family /childcare friendly areas. Had Harrow, Acton in mind . Are they good for my budget or any other suggestions?
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You can focus on the fact that’s it cold and windy and you don’t want to be there.
Or you can focus on the fact that your dad has made it to 60, this is how he wants to celebrate, and would be grateful if you came with.
I don’t think you’ll regret going, but you very will might regret *not* going.
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You my friend need a trip to REI or similar and you need drop $150 on some solid base layers. Great for staying warm but also thermoregulation. Always in the zone. You need some smartwool, icebreaker, Patagonia capilene. Top and bottoms. Buttons are important. Hat. Vest. Eddie Bauer is always having 40-50% sales.
Gear up.
You should go. Life is too short. Make the best out of it and enjoy your family.
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Yea it’s your dad just suck it up. It’s only a couple of hours and you can chill inside the boat. At the end of the day as our parents and grandparents are older cherish those moments because you may wake up one morning and they are no longer there during a period in life when you really could use them.
Speaking of suck it up... I hope you don't get motion sickness.
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😑it’s your dads bday, plz go and dress warm.🧐
My dad’s 60th birthday would have been yesterday. He died at 53 when I was 23 years old. Please layer up, enjoy the time with him, and make the memories.
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I'm so sorry for your loss and to lose him when you both were so young. But grateful that you shared this perspective.
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Advice is to reframe so that you do want to go. If your family feels loved and supported, wouldn’t that make you feel good? How do you feel when people show an interest in you and the things you care about? Pretty nice, right? Please don’t back out. 10, 15 years from now when your dad may not have the health to do something like fishing you want to think back about the time you spent together while your still could, not about how you stayed warm that one day.
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This.
My spouse lost his father at 60 and didn’t get a chance to see him before he passed. This made me really appreciate any time I can spend with my father.
Sometimes we do things we don’t want to do, for our parents. I’m sure they did a lot of things they didn’t really want to do for you over the years. It’s 1 morning of your life. My dad died at 64 when I was 22 years old. Perhaps focus on how lucky you are to be able to spend the morning with your dad celebrating his birthday and doing something that makes him happy. You miss those days one day. I do.
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You will regret it if you don't go. He wants you there - that should be all you should care about.
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Imagine the amount of times he did something he didn’t want to for you
OP you sound like a lot of fun.
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Bruh it’s a few sucky hours for you. Meanwhile he’s had to deal with you his whole life. You’re getting the better end of this deal.
It’s a few hours for your dad’s 60th birthday. Get some good layers to stay warm and enjoy the time with him.
You should go and enjoy the time with family.
A simple thing that can make it much better is to pack accordingly. No one will probably care if you don’t touch a rod they just want everyone to enjoy being together. Pack good food and drinks and relax inside the cabin of the boat. Trust me, everyone will appreciate good food and drinks.
I can promise you that if you don't go, there will be a day sometime in the future where you would trade just about anything to have one more fishing trip with your dad.
When he's not a around would you like a memory of a fishing trip with him or the regret that you stayed at home and watched Netflix instead of doing something on the year he officially became a senior citizen
I don’t have a great relationship with my dad. He and my mom divorced, and in general family trips were a bit of a nightmare growing up, lots of arguing, lots of waiting on my dad who was always slow to get out the door, and slow to realize when the rest of the family was ready to move on from one activity to the next.
Totally get where OP is coming from, if he happened to have a childhood with any sort of resemblance to mine.
All that said, as an adult (who thankfully lives far away and can keep most interactions on my own terms) I do try to keep up with him, and the times that I’m visiting nearby I always make an effort to spend some time with him, even though it’s never the most comfortable of experiences.
Families can suck, almost all family members are seriously flawed in some way, sometimes spending time with family is seriously draining — but above all else, family is everything, and always worth the effort in the end.
Assuming that your non desire is due to comfort and not actually the quality of the relationship you have with your dad, get some really good layers, bundle up, and go. Way more likely you'll regret not going than going, in that scenario. If there's more to it, then that may have me revise my opinion.
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Just sick it up and dress warm.
Be grateful for every moment you have with your parents. Suck it up and go.