Inclusion question. I am not sure what gender pronouns my barber prefers. This person appears to be a male (full beard, deep voice, etc.). I’ve noticed that the Google reviews reference this person as a female and when I called the shop to ask for my barber - the person who picked up also used a female pronoun. Barber has never corrected me when I refer to them as a man… I want to be inclusive and respect their identity. How can do this respectfully?

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You should ask the barber directly, “Hey I’ve noticed the person that picked up the phone referred to you as x, what pronoun do you prefer”?

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Call them by their name?

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“Thanks so much for the cut, it looks great! I noticed the person at the front desk used she/her/hers as your pronouns and realized I never asked what your pronouns are. Mine are he/him/his.”

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And if you don’t want to ask you could always just use “they”

Are using names too old fashioned now?!

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Your barber probably prefers you refer to them as something gender neutral.

In this comment, I mentioned you, your barber, and myself, eight times and nobody knows any of our genders.

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I've been going to the same barber for like 5 years... Don't think I've used her third person pronouns in that entire time. Mostly because I'm speaking to her in second person using "you" and her first name. Suppose it doesn't hurt to ask in your case.

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