Is this bullying or am I being too sensitive?

I posted a message in our slack availability chat to say my team will be WFH today.

The CEOs EA then mocked my message, writing a response that mimicked my message and implied that my team is unmotivated because we didn't come in today.

We're working overtime, through lunch etc. this last fortnight, and we're just WFH because of an urgent deadline and know we won't be productive in the office.

Should I raise this with HR? Doesn't sit right w me.

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very weird for an assistant to be doing any editorializing at all

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“Hi EA, thank you for your concern about the timeline. We’ve been working overtime and through lunch for the last fortnight because of the urgent deadline; we can, if you are asking on behalf of the CEO, certainly shift our plans to WFH (enacted in order to speed up that timeline and deliverables) to instead work from the office. Please note that doing so will however delay the delivery date by approximately two delivery days, due to the time lost vs. our speed WFH. Please advise.”

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I’d start with a 1:1 conversation about how that behavior made you feel. Chances are, they just thought it was a funny thing to say.

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Raise it with your boss.

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I guess I’m old enough to remember a time when we could joke around with people at work and not have it be an emotional crisis 🤷🏾‍♀️

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I’m probably even older, and shit behavior masquerading as “jokes” was shit behavior back then too.

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Not knowing the dynamics of your office, is it a small company, if you’re all friendly with each other, etc, they might know full well the hours you’ve been working so were just poking fun. It’s still an odd thing to post and on face value sounds unprofessional. But, bullying? Don’t go to HR. That sounds like overkill. If you have a friendly relationship with this person just say something to them face to face.

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It's a large tech company so no visibility unfortunately. I heard from an ELT member that me saying we will WFH absolutely set the leadership team off - the EA was in that meeting and sent that message out as a result of them collectively losing it. That's why it feels so targeted I suppose.

Raise the roof. Doesn’t matter who it is there is a certain level of respect.

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Besides this how is life at Ogilvy?

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If it’s like my company they don’t care the reasons you work from home if it’s mandatory in office and the repercussions come during raises and promotions. And they will forget this deadline. Probably makes sense to talk to your boss and make sure you’re cool. No way can you send the suggested note about timelines shifting bc of working from the office.

This. I also don’t know the norms of tech, although it doesn’t have a great reputation for work culture. But yea, listen, only you know what’s really appropriate here. Every company is different.

Did they put in a RTO policy where everyone has to come in certain days and you last minute just decided not to? Were there meetings that day where they expected to get in-person collab time with you and you switched it to remote last minute?

I’m not even saying that you aren’t more productive from home or that you weren’t burnt out and could use a break from being in office. But saying it helps you meet a deadline sounds like a stretch. And if you as a team are less productive in office then that needs to be something addressed beforehand. Because it sounds like you’re just not on the same page about this.

You’re a Creative Director. You should have a direct line with the leadership to sort this out. As someone a few levels above me I’m sure you know this more than I—appearances are everything. But focusing on the Executive Assistant’s Slack messages won’t fix anything here.

Honestly this is probably going to be the peak of the assistant’s career.

Do not push back to the EA. If they were brazen enough to write this then they are certainly brazen enough to complain to the CEO about it if the topic ever came up unprompted. The CEO is already pissy about you WFH and probably values their EA more than you; you think they are gonna be happy to hear that you pushed back against their all-powerful executive decision making through their proxy messenger?

Hit the deadline WFH, keep your head down the next week, then move on.

Just give them an appropriate emoji, that shows you acknowledged the message, you’re not afraid to respond, and you have no interested in wasting your time to explain for that jab (if it’s not a smart ass joke), by doing that you can also shift the focus back at the EA.

Ignore it and make or beat your deadline. Try to scrape together some evidence that productivity increased when WFH relative to the office.

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