I've been doing really good at improving my life. Big up swing after repeated failures. Last week I lost control of my diet after losing 10 lb. I also struck out at a dating social. After the dating social I stayed because I was feeling the effects of the alcohol and I think I blacked out. Beyond the anxiety I am so ashamed. I feel like everybody at work knows even though I don't think I saw anybody there. I looks sad most of the time anyway so everybody asked me if I'm okay. Contd

Founded a Nonprofit to help coach veterans in transition and exiting first responders and their families while focusing on changing the stigma of mental health conversation.

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Anyone have first hand experience with travel medical insurance? Looking to purchase for a short trip but finding so many mixed reviews from people that have had to actually try and use it. Appreciate any recommendations!

Anyone here down to hang out sometime, I’m a 26 year old guy (pretty socially awkward but super genuine), just been feeling lonely, if anyone is down lemme know

I have a Q that I worry is going to make me sound like a jerk, but want some opinions. I do strength training 2x/wk with a trainer who was assigned to me at a gym where I bought a pack of sessions. I don’t really consider myself “his” client bc the relationship is managed by the gym… but lately he keeps saying like “I can’t wait to see what my clients give me for Christmas” and I find it super awkward. I pay $150 per session for these workouts (cont’d in comments)…

"she doesn't have good boobs" †
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Anyone have any resources (online) for settling claims wish Medicare liens? Looking for ways to resolve early while ensuring potential lien is preserved.

I am struggling to spend the time to study for the PHR. I have everything I need, but I feel exhausted from the work week every weekend. I’m looking to take it in August.. help? What do I do?

Met a great woman this weekend. We are going on a date at the end of the month. Both have crazy schedules end of this month and next . I can’t stop thinking about her :) happy pride 🏳️‍🌈 ❤️

Any recommendation for a therapist around Jersey City/ NYC area? I have called 15 people so far and none of them are taking new clients. This isn't helping my anxiety.

can we change our team to different team in PwC. Company achi hai par kaam team mei bahut zada hectic hai yaar. health ki to lag gayi

First afternoon date(ish) in South Ken. What are some good places to go for coffee/drinks etc.?

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Male here,

Anyone up for weekend catchup and drive ...female preferred ;)

I have a date over dim sum in a few days. Any recs or tips for staying compliant? Really want to stay OP.
So far my options are salt and pepper shrimp, steamed ribs, chicken feet, and broccoli.

Thinking this is the year i iA find someone, prayers for all of us single 🐟 wanting to take that next step!

Desi singles, any plans for thanksgiving weekend ?

Hi fellow 🌈 🐠- Looking for a therapist in Toronto. Can be virtual but would prefer to do sessions in person at some point with the same therapist for continuity. Any recos or resources on where to start the search? Bonus if they are LGBTQ or have experience/specialize within that community.

Whenever i have a big deadline, my body goes into a panic mode where my energy immediately goes to figuring out how I’ll get something done well and on time. Outwardly, I don’t seem stressed so no one notices but actually I usually feel like I have a cold: fatigue, headache, sore throat, sinus infection. When a task is done, i stop feeling like crap. It’s been like this since law school. Any tips on managing stress or moving towards doing good work without my body shutting down lol?

How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

Anyone that works for DOD have trouble getting their CAC? I work with the Navy and haven't heard anything about issuing a CAC. Did they stop issuing out CACs?

Can you guys like this post & help me get likes so that I can send DM’s and connect with the right people please :)

How much equity would you push for if you considered a VP role at a Series C? What if it was $100m valuation vs $1B valuation?

Hi Sharks,

I am looking for referral in Google, Can someone help me get referred for open position in new Pune center? I have 3 YOE in IT/Banking ops recruiting, recruitment operations and HR operations.

Thanks in advance!!

How much are new hires in advisory making now in Ny? Just curios to see how much it went up since I started 3 years ago

I don’t trust cheese that doesn’t melt

Looking for professionals who have public accounting/external audit experience who are looking for a career change. I have a Firm funded round(s) of golf (or coffee/drinks for non-golfers) to share more insight on a career at Siegfried. DM me if you’re interested!

I’m interviewing for a job and am in the third and final round. I have to develop a strategy based off of a case study and then do a 30 minute presentation to a panel of people. I haven’t ever done this before. Does anyone have any advice or best practices for this?

Do you think Ellen Degeneres will have a comeback?

I have been offered a job at KPMG within cyber security in the uk. Originally it was a 25% hike offer. Now I have received a 8% hike at Deloitte as part of the current performance cycle along with a 5k bonus (great incentives every year) The only thing is KPMG is offering this in a @kpmg regional location where I’m based plus the disadvantage is I need to pay 2500£ for my dependent visa costs which I can save if I continued with Deloitte. Seen Lot of negative comments about KPMG. Any thoughts ?

What are some aggressive ways to control your spending? I tried a little but of everything(paying myself first, only debit cards,cash) but seems like i have the urge to spend and i do so. Any tips?

For folks starting at BCG (experienced hires) in August, is there any indication as to what the first week(s) of orientation and training is like? I.e., remote vs in-person (if in-person, which city), etc.
My SO is convinced she can’t make our weekend plans due to these trainings ..

I have 2 year and 10 months experience in TCS. I am a Java developer, and know java, spring boot, rest, spring MVC, oracle database. And I have to serve 90 Daya notice period.
Please help me to get a job.

If you declined a job offer from a B4, but now want to pursue the opportunity a few months later, would the firm move forward with you? Would they make you interview again if so?

🐟 without dependents, what % of your monthly income do you save and what % do you contribute to 401k.

Book recommendations on leadership, career development, etc?

What does Monitor Deloitte do?

Hi Fishes,

Is S&P planning to open offices?

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

What did y’all actually want to be when you grew up?

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

Does anyone have any advise when it comes to navigating getting help and your firm. I had a tough month mentally. But I reached out to my local bar’s LAP. I’m starting the process of seeing a therapist. But my dreads still here. I’m panicking about being short on hours, falling behind on my cases and explaining to my boss I know I’m behind at work but I am working on it. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

What about legal work is currently causing your mental health struggles?

Mine’s the hours, which is not normally my issue. I billed 230 for June and July and am already at 145 for August. My ability to focus is getting worse by the day, so I’m working longer to bill the same hours and have had to pull a couple all nighters. I burst into tears this morning when a client changed plans and now wants a major project by end of month, on top of my other deadlines next week... I just want to sleep.

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

Is anyone else experiencing a new wave of covid anxiety due to the stress of figuring out the holidays? Got in an argument with a family member about safety guidelines and testing needing to happen and I’ve been feeling paralyzed by anxiety all day.

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Burnout: cyclical and becomes so debilitating that I find myself unable to do simple every day tasks. How often do you burnout? What does it entail for you?

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

SEEKING OPINIONS & FEEDBACK: I love the honest & practical discussions here, where people can freely identify things that are going on & seek guidance.

Wondering whether anybody’d be interested in some kind of more purposeful community- i.e., gathering w/fellow lawyers to pursue some specific mental health & well-being goals? We’d provide some counseling/coaching type content, in bite sized chunks, but have regular discussions to connect & encourage one another on applying the content IRL.

Has anyone had good experiences taking ashwagandha for daily stress?

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

Does anyone have experience breaking up w a therapist? I've been seeing my therapist for 5+ years for eating disorder treatment and we've been through so much together, but I don't think she's able to help me anymore. While I've stopped my ED behaviors, they've evolved into OCD, and I'm finding that her methods might be making it worse. I think I want to try an OCD expert instead. But I don't know how to end the relationship. Do I just stop going? Do I explain myself? I don't know what to do 🥺

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Choose to be happy today

I've been working from home for the last six months and had this constant urge to eat treats I find anywhere around the house. My two daughters find it humorous, but it has rarely made me feel good. Kindly, what can I do to stop?