Looking for advice from consulting moms and dads - has anyone managed a successful consulting career (not taking a hit in terms of promotions/growth trajectory) and had significant involvement at home with your child(ren) as well? My goal is to be a career consultant, and my spouse and I are thinking about kids in the near future. Both of us are pretty ambitious - think B-school grads with rising careers.

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Consulting dad here. Father of two young kids with 3yr gap. I would share two perspectives. First, you will need to learn to set boundaries to protect both worlds (kids and family will consume as much time as you give to them, and job pressures will just grow over time and if not clearly stated when your time no longer belongs to your job will have bad consequences). Second, you will quickly realize that being a good parent will require way more of your leadership skills than you imagine. You will need to self organize, you will need to plan 100 things in parallel (and this typically comes altogether with job inquiries), you will need to beef up negotiation skills over time as tactics will need to be adapted every next year when kids grow up. Nothing impossible here. And lastly, you may soon realize someone without kids grows faster than you. Don’t be stressed as it could happen even if you were still single. Your happiness will be where you will see shining eyes full of joy of you being back home 🥳

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Consulting mom here. I went on two maternity leaves and both got promoted during those times (our kids are 3 and 1).

My husband also maintains a great career as a partner at his firm.

Spending quality time with our children day to day is a huge priority so we outsource things like cleaning and meals so we can do so.

Good luck OP!

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We’ve done both! We have a “mother’s helper” who can do cook + run errands and get take out Fridays and Saturdays.

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I was a consultant manager pre covid, one child at the time, and my wife didn't work. With flight schedule it was totally impossible for me to be present. I decided to leave and join tech. With remote work it could be better, but an always-on work environment is hardly compatible with full time mindful parenting

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Yeah, that's what I'm slightly concerned about also. Once travel picks up, which looks more and more likely by the day, it's going to be hard to spend time around the house

How are you currently defining “significant involvement at home”? Can mean a wide range.

Completely possible. Don’t limit yourself mentally, but know it won’t always be easy. 10+ year single father with two very active teenagers. My experience is there will be core hours you’ll get things done “undisturbed” and other hours you will have to balance between work and family.

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