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Consulting dad here. Father of two young kids with 3yr gap. I would share two perspectives. First, you will need to learn to set boundaries to protect both worlds (kids and family will consume as much time as you give to them, and job pressures will just grow over time and if not clearly stated when your time no longer belongs to your job will have bad consequences). Second, you will quickly realize that being a good parent will require way more of your leadership skills than you imagine. You will need to self organize, you will need to plan 100 things in parallel (and this typically comes altogether with job inquiries), you will need to beef up negotiation skills over time as tactics will need to be adapted every next year when kids grow up. Nothing impossible here. And lastly, you may soon realize someone without kids grows faster than you. Don’t be stressed as it could happen even if you were still single. Your happiness will be where you will see shining eyes full of joy of you being back home 🥳
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Consulting mom here. I went on two maternity leaves and both got promoted during those times (our kids are 3 and 1).
My husband also maintains a great career as a partner at his firm.
Spending quality time with our children day to day is a huge priority so we outsource things like cleaning and meals so we can do so.
Good luck OP!
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We’ve done both! We have a “mother’s helper” who can do cook + run errands and get take out Fridays and Saturdays.
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I was a consultant manager pre covid, one child at the time, and my wife didn't work. With flight schedule it was totally impossible for me to be present. I decided to leave and join tech. With remote work it could be better, but an always-on work environment is hardly compatible with full time mindful parenting
Yeah, that's what I'm slightly concerned about also. Once travel picks up, which looks more and more likely by the day, it's going to be hard to spend time around the house
How are you currently defining “significant involvement at home”? Can mean a wide range.
First I seriously applaud you for planning ahead like this.
Some thoughts:
Spending a lot of hours with your kids is not the same as spending a lot of quality time with your kids. See HBR link below.
Do you envision working part time fully-focused, as part of a flexible working arrangement, and having the rest of your time zoned in on your kids?
Or do you envision WFH while you duck out to make them lunch, put them for naps, set up an obstacle course of toys to keep them quiet while you work?
Or do you envision working 45 hrs p/w very productively, doing daily wake up and bedtime, and caring for them all weekend?
IMO the former provides significant quality time to kids and your work! Conversely, sitting on the floor under a desk while mom tells you to be quiet, is not. The latter is what (almost) every new parent is doing or at least aiming for.
I think you can certainly move up in an org on a FWA. I think it’s putting insane pressure to try give you all to both endeavours on week days.
https://hbr.org/amp/2018/11/how-our-careers-affect-our-children
Completely possible. Don’t limit yourself mentally, but know it won’t always be easy. 10+ year single father with two very active teenagers. My experience is there will be core hours you’ll get things done “undisturbed” and other hours you will have to balance between work and family.