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Hey peeps. How do y’all deal with in laws that think they have the right to see your kid basically on demand. It’s my parents actually, not my wife’s. I’m about to give them an ultimatum......

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“No. How about next Saturday at 5?” And if that doesn’t work for them. “That’s too bad. Why don’t we try to figure out a time later then.”

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I'd say "ok, but remember you have to keep them for two weeks."

In normal times, if my in-laws or parents wanted to see my kids and we didn't have any other plans I'd have no problem with it. If they did it too often I'd start making plans more regularly and say sorry we aren't available sometimes. That being said, my comment above still applies I love my kids but I spend a ton of time with them, especially now, so if they want to take them for a day or a weekend I am totally fine with it. I'll expect a goodnight call but trust that they'll keep the kids safe so I don't worry about them.

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I wouldn’t care as long as they take them with them and provide me some free time lol. If they are just dropping by unannounced then I would set boundaries

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