My WLB is just me choosing which part of my life to fail at today. If I hit my billable target, I’m a bad parent because I missed bedtime. If I make it to the soccer game, I’m an unreliable associate who left a partner hanging. There is no balance. We’re sold this lie that you can have it all. Does the guilt ever go away, or do you just get used to living in a state of perpetual apology?

Hi all!
My mother in law got scammed by a con artist from the UK online and lost $7K (damn you Facebook!)

Her status in the US is currently complicated and she doesn’t have a green card(tho she’s working on it), my wife(her daughter) is American.

I want to report this to the FBI’s elder fraud department but I don’t want to complicate her situation even more.

Does anyone know if criminal stuff like this and immigration related things are separated?

Graduated law school, passed the bar, and started my job last summer. My wife and I got pregnant with our first sooner than we expected, and we're due in June. Any general tips/advice?

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Do you think all these violent and hate filled attacks are because people aren't getting the emotional/mental support they need, whether it's therapy at any age or help they needed but didn't get from a social worker as a child? My coworker is sure this is the case, but I honestly think there's actually something deeper wrong either with how these people are being raised as children, or how the warning signs these people give off are ignored or swept under the rug to save face.

Does anyone know if we can reimburse expenses for items listed in Wageworks while on maternity?

I know we cannot expense phone/internet/ commuter benefit as I am not actively doing work.

However, for other items that fall under wage works reimbursement, I couldn’t find anything in writing yet.

Last week I had to explain to my child what “politics” (as in office politics) is. My child is going to a new high school and wants to play volleyball. There was a 3 day open “tryout” for incoming freshman for 2 teams. After the first day, she noticed that
1) there were obvious favorites (coaches are not even hiding that fact);
2) some can’t even play and got on the team,
3) some that can obviously play but did not get on the team;
4) decision were obviously made before the first day was over.

This past year was/is the worst in my life by far. Aside from all the Covid mess we’ve all dealt with I lost a parent, an in-law, my spouse has decided they no longer want to be married and my grandmother is in hospice with days left. I believe this was/is my least productive year in my career as a result. I’m worried my job won’t be here in a few months and I’m doing my best to hold it together. Sorry to be a downer but I just needed to throw my worries out there in hopes they never come back.

Anyone have generator recommendations? Are there any that aren’t obscenely loud? Moved to a northern state with lots of snow and have a baby arriving during winter. Thinking I’d like to get a backup generator to give me peace of mind.

Are there any parent fish in this bowl? What sites have you used to setup nanny or babysitting services?

We were not trying to conceive. And I was drinking alcohol like twice a week.
Now I missed my period and pregnant. I am panicking a lot, not sure if I want a baby right now. Definitely i cant deal with pregnancy constantly knowing how much u drinking could have affected the fetus and if i could ever endure the consequences it would bring upon the baby
Help me understand if my baby will be fine or not.

Hi Fishes,

Need some suggestions from everyone. I have 4.5 years experience and I was working as contractor in ZS and my CTC in parent company was 7 Lakhs.

ZS were willing to offer me FTE as ZS but at a compensation of meagre 8.5 Lakhs. I tried negotiating but they sticked with this.

How come ZS do that? Why can't they pay more as they generally pay 15+ for 4.5 years experience.

Brand new (like, just-had-a-kid new) mom here. Life seems manageable with the baby sleeping much of the time. It gets worse from here doesn’t it? I’m scared 😱😱😱

When hirings managers ask illegal or unethical questions that is not relevant to the job or skills needed for the role like...
How much are you making at current job
Are you pregnant or have any children
Do you have reliable daycare
Do you have reliable transportation
Do you have a criminal record

Have y'all experienced this?

Question about inclusion…. I’ve been teaching inclusion for 5 years so I’m still a newb, but a first year coworker of mine said she got points off on her observation because her kids were scattered in the classroom and she was having to move from kid to kid to assist. While I see the point of putting them together for convenience, I don’t agree with this at all! To me this is like singling them out by putting them all together instead of INCLUDED amongst peers. What do y’all think?

Whats something that you did as a child through teenage years that you now don't do as an adult?

Example- I used to crumple, but now I fold

Hello Fishes!
I'm hiring for a position in my team
Department - Strategy role at a NBFC (Backed by Japanese Parent)
Requirements - MBA(Finance)/CA/CFA with 1-3 year experience.
Financial service experience with research and analytical skill background will be preferred, Budget - 20 LPA (Negotiable),
Location- Bangalore
Let me know if anyone of you with suitable skills and experience looking out. Comment/DM here!

Have people gotten their bonus’ prorated in a year they were on parental leave? Any hunches to tell if it was more less than a straight prorate?

Best consulting firms with best WLB? Do they exist? Young professional starting to think about where I'd like to work hard to end up in the next 5-10 years.

I'm quiting to go back to school. What's the quiting process like? I'm out of it at this point and don't want to work

About 2,300 National Guard members will remain in Washington as deployment is extended through most of May

I am a regional controller for a hospitality group. I began looking for a job in a different industry, but have hit some roadblocks with trying to communicate transferable skills and management style (decentralized). Any recommendations?

How do you answer “Tell me about yourself?” Is there a specific format you follow? Examples greatly appreciated! Thank you :)

Hi Guys,
Anyone joined CTS as lateral hires still in bench more than 30 days. If you got the project recently, pls guide how to get the project.

And if have openings in ADM domain let me know

Planning on staying in Japan in November for a week! Any recommendations on where to stay / things to do? Also, got some SPG points (<100k) I want to use!

What other creative outlets do you have outside of your job? Not necessarily side hustles, might just be something you do just for fun or creative nourishment?

Anyone brave enough to go for drinks in the west loop tonight?

Switching from .net to Java is good or bad after having 7 years of experience in .net?

How much is the variable pay out for L9 employee if max of 27% is 450000, how much can we expect.

What are the cheapest study materials to study for the CFE? I didn’t want to pay out 1k+ for the prep course from ACFE.

How many days does Deloitte take to release the offer for an immediate joiner?

Confused why Wachtell qualifies as BigLaw when they have one (small) office

What are recent, good resources for case prep for McKinsey interview?

I need an opinion, which field is better in terms of compensation and work/ life balance , a sales producer or adjuster ??

How much time is acceptable to bill to admin per day?

So I was a 5th year associate in nyc making 100 k a year 2k billable hours.. I decided to leave for the role Im in now.. my old countered to keep me at 115k (which was like pulling teeth for them) but I left anyways now I find out that they offered a 7th year 150 k and a partner title should I be offended that they didn’t even try more with me

Considering becoming a consultant lawyer. Any advice/tips from someone who made that move?

When negotiating a sign on bonus with a new firm based on the fact that you were anticipating a bonus for that fiscal year and are leaving before that is paid out, do you have to do anything to prove you would have actually received a bonus/the amount of bonus you would have received?

Any Probate attorneys? My mother just passed away and I have zero experience in this area. There is an original will naming me the agent though I have been unable to read it as the secondary agent won’t hand it over. Can I start probate without it? She died in Idaho which requires formal probate for any estate valued over $100k. By value does that mean after debts are repaid? How does one know the value of the estate before they file? Without the letters testamentary I can’t access …cont’d

Anyone at Pryor Cashman have intel on firm culture, work/life balance, and comp?

Horrible anxiety about considering a new job....
I was one of the big firm stealth layoffs in covid and joined a boutique firm in Sept. They came sort of close to matching my salary but I moved to SoCal and have an opportunity to jump back in to big law and get $100k raise. The people at the small firm are so nice, but hours are nuts and if I’m going to work this much, I might as well get paid more, right? Is it too soon? How do you tell them when the managing partner took you under his wing?

How to switch practice areas? I’ve been in immigration for 3 years now and need a change. How do you convince employers you’re a good fit for a role you don’t have any experience with?

I’ve been a pd for 5 years. Tips on leaving public defense? I don’t want to do criminal. What things should my resume highlight? Any recruiter recommendations?

Is there a market for lawyers to add expertise In crisis management or reputation management? My goal is to counsel clients on how to respond to media inquiries without saying or posting something detrimental to a potential litigation while still maintaining communication with their client base. If so, how to break into that industry? Courses? Books? Certifications?

Anyone know when Ch. 7 BKs must close by? Is this changed by when there are adversary proceedings (alleged fraudulent transfers made to a bank for CC payments)? Asking for my friend who is unfortunately involved bc of his parents, who are the debtors (he isn’t a defendant or a debtor in this, but the payments were made to a CC in his name—a CC he didnt know was opened in his name).

Its in Texas, and the initial BK filing was made about 23 months ago. TIA!

I don’t want to make partner, and I want to stay in big law for 2-3 years, do you suggest I just do the bare minimum for hours or should I still be doing as much work as possible?

Have a call on Friday with the CEO of an environmental entrepreneurship non-profit. It could lead to a professional opportunity and maybe even billable work I can refer to my firm down the line. I’m going in with an open mind but little concrete information on his entity and goals and ways I could get involved. What questions would you ask such a person?

What do you do when you feel the goalpost has been/is being moved re: billable requirements? Like there's a spoken vs unspoken? I chose this job based on billables vs salary and what I'm being told I'm expected to do now is 20-30% (at least) > than what was initially agreed upon. Given my other life responsibilities, this is creating a huge strain & I feel like this is slowly getting harder & harder on my spouse & kids. I'm grateful to have lots of good work but not sure how to course correct.

What do partners generally expect from third-year litigation associates (smaller firm) as far as legal, professional, and/or case management skills go?
I still feel like I can’t (or don’t know how to) manage or push cases forward and like I’m constantly behind on everything—is this normal?

This is not my wheelhouse so I’m not sure of the answer. If someone is writing a “memoir” and is including me in it, and I DONT want to be in the book, do I have any legal recourse? I understand since it’s been published it doesn’t meet any invasion of privacy or potential defamation yet, but is there something I can do preliminarily to protect myself and stop my inclusion?

Rising 2L here…Just found out yesterday that one of my top target law firms is not participating in OCIs (they don’t have offices in my state). Any advice on the best way to move forward with them? Still planning to apply, just want to know what I should be doing. Thanks!

Does anyone know sports arbitration or general arbitration well? Have been a figure skating fan my entire life and am curious whether the judgement of recent Valieva case makes sense to you.

Anyone suiting up for the office?

I’m in Chicago, and I feel like I’ve been seeing a lot more suits in the loop.