Need some advice. I was seeing someone, and the relationship ended up being extremely toxic. They were narcissistic & gaslit me into falling more & more in love. We haven’t really spoken since. I just joined the firm & they are now a colleague. I am worried that I will get dragged into this mess again or they will be a nuisance to my work. I’m planning on keeping my distance, but with my luck we’ll be on a project together. Any advice for a narc-ex at work?

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You can always distance and if you are put on a project you can always ask to be removed for personal reasons. They should be able to respect that and not put you in what is defined as a compromising situation.

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I was in a position where I wasn’t dating a colleague but he thought our relationship was much more than it actually was. He started harassing me on social media and stalking my LinkedIn page even after I made it clear that I was not interested. Be prepared to go to HR if necessary and try to keep your information as private as possible. I have removed my home address from being public on Deloitte’s server and have been careful not to include my specific project name on Deloitte’s People Network.

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I wouldn’t worry about being on a project with them until it happens.

My advice would be to simply cut off all communication and move on with your life. Don’t give an ounce of your energy to this person. You are in control of how you allow this person to affect you. Do not give them any power. Be strong, you can handle this.

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But well, well worth it, and likely the only thing that will work long term.

Completely forget they exist unless you somehow end up on a project with them. In that case just notify your HR lead, I’m sure they’ll be understanding

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Stay strong and hit the dating scene. Eventually you’ll find someone great for you and until then you’ll have lots of fun searching

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That sounds awful. My ex husband was like that and I felt so much better after I put him out of my mind. You gotta re-route your brain a bit in the beginning but eventually you will barely remember.

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