Not exactly introvert issue but social anxiety- dating a guy and it’s kind of ambiguous. He invited me to a party tonight and my heart is racing at the thought of meeting all these strangers. Advice?

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What’s the worst that can happen? Might be easier said than done, but try not to care what a bunch of strangers think. Just try to enjoy yourself; if after a while you’re not feeling it, you can always go home.

On a side note though, does the guy you’re dating already know how you’re feeling about this? If not, I’d highly recommend you talk to him about your social anxiety so he can understand you better.


And lastly if you really feel uncomfortable / like it’s too soon to meet his friends, remember you don’t have to go. If it makes you this uncomfortable it might make sense to talk to him about it first so he can be more supportive & you can feel more comfortable. Whatever you choose, remember there will always be parties so don’t put so much pressure on it. Hope you enjoy your night whatever you choose to do!

I agree with AC1. Assuming the guy you’re dating is cool, his friends are probably excited to meet you, you should be welcome with open arms. Just say you guys are friends, that is technically true, you just haven’t defined the scope of your friendship yet. But at the end of the day, do what you are comfortable with, as AC 1 said, if you’re not ready to meet the friends then let him know.


I recommend talking to him about how you are usually not comfortable in new social situations but that you are excited about meeting his friends. Maybe have a safe word in case it becomes overwhelming. I do that with my wife. So when I’m getting uncomfortable in a social setting I will say the safe word. She then proceeds to move to another side of the room. Sometimes I will tell people I need to go outside to make a call. This way I can go to an open space and get some air


Especially since I’m imagining his friends all thinking “who is this new chick” and if people ask about our relationship status I have no clue what to say 😨 I’m currently chilling in a bar around the corner cause I’m scared to go to his apartment

What did you end up doing OP? Hope you enjoyed your night

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