On average, when do you have sex with someone you go out with? 2nd date? 5th? I’m new to dating after being married 25+ years. What’s the average here?

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First date, usually in the parking lot.

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Before or after the meal?

According to my boyfriend 3 dates is the standard we had sex after the 5th date , but I dated a guy for 3 months we never had sex.

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Agree, lol. The physical attraction was never there, but he was a good companion and we had fun together.

OP just be sure when you do have sex you protect yourself. Men like to have unprotected sex so they can “feel it better” which is BS. Make sure you protect you at all times.

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Yup that is definitely BS. While we do “feel it better”, not all of us likes that. I always prefer a condom so that’s not true. Without a condom, I finish too fast and with a condom I can last 15-20 mins. Which is enough time for my girlfriend to orgasm at least 4-5 times. And pleasing your partner brings SO much more pleasure emotionally than the physical stimulation

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Depends on the people and the goal. For one party it might be casual sex so the first date is fine, another person might be more of a standard 3rd date type, and someone else might be having casual sex with someone else and not want to be intimate until it’s a real thing. The biggest component of finding a new partner is communication, so if you feel like you want to move forward and you get hesitation, or if you are the one hesitant, talk about it.

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I’m a woman and I’ve never thought in terms of it’ll take “x” Amount of dates. It’s really when the connection is there (most importantly), and time & mood is right.

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Haven’t had sex in over a year as I’m waiting for marriage.

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2nd or 3rd date is fine as long as they are the one you’ll be with forever

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It’s just one of those feelings you get? Both my gf and I knew we were the one after the 2nd or 3rd date. So we had sex on the 4th date. We met early 2017

I was waiting till marriage and then got fed up of being sexually frustrated and started having sex on the first date if I like them and we get along. I find out real quick if I like them physically. But By the first date I have already talked to them a couple times before meeting and sexted a little bit and confirmed if they would be ok to have sex on the first date if things go well to make appropriate arrangements. The sexting helps weed out people with weird ass kinks real quick 😂 I’m down for kinks but there are some questionable ones that once I hear about I’m like “I’m out”. Also if a dude is not willing to wear a condom that’s disrespectful and I stop talking to them and I find out about that via sexting. All that to say do what feels comfortable. I also am ok with doing the above items because I use my audit skills to vet all dates through the internet (you can find a lot about someone with limited info), I follow my gut, share my location with a close friend and feel like I can defend myself if something were to go awry. That’s alot of info but hope it helps as you figure out what works for you! 😊

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Whatever feels right for you! If the connection is there then go for it!

Do what feels right to you. Be clear about your intentions (fling, another LTR, etc), and be sure to listen to what they are looking for as well. Some people may lie, but most will tell the truth.

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