Other fishbowlers here who never want to have kids ? ✋️ how do you deal with social pressures ?

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^^^ this. Im still on the fence about kids. 34yo female, which according to others, I am "running out of time". But I have quite a few friends in their 40s who just had their first kid. Im not in any rush. And i've accepted that it's possible I may never have any. It doesn't depress me. Ive always been on the fence about having them. If I meet someone fantastic and it happens, great. If I don't, great. Either way i'm out enjoying my life, living it up, collecting memories along the way, not regretting a damn thing, and letting life unfold however it may. While I don't completely alienate myself from people who do have kids, I obviously have much less in common with them, so I naturally gravitate to child-less people. Honestly tho, the look of envy when I detail out my absolute freedom and travels is priceless. 😏

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Pan to company party. In the midst of a conversation with 5 similarly aged people. We are standing around a round table. Conversation shifts to kids, spouses, after school activities, nannies. The phones come out, with all the pictures of the little 🐟 from the Prius patients and their trophies 🏆. Single 🐠 with no kids, quietly finds another table to join. End scene

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The solution for me is usually then telling folks about how I sleep in, go out to dinners on week days, watch cool tv shows, and how I ziplined through my trip in south America and where my next international vacation is. The looks of envy!:)

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Agreed. Smug, passive-aggressive, insular parenting chatter is the worst - and I say this as a full time working mother of a small child. Yes, my disposable income, travel plans, and social agility are f*cked. But I love him a lot, and we make each other laugh. Point being? If you have children or don't, you will be happy. If you disparage those who do or don't, you will be, simply put, an asshole.

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I actually do and running out if time with no foreseeable prospects:( But, I've never encountered SOCIAL pressure to have any. Only family pressure from my mother:) Who thankfully finally gave up too:)

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Prius patients = proud parents. @copywiter x...I know.

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Like AAD1, I do not experience social pressures. I think my age (mid-thirties) and perpetual single status preclude me from judgment. But when I was younger I got a lot of shit, and I just told people that I detested children. I lost a lot of friends that way. Can't recommend that method.

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I troll people with pics of my dog when they gush about their spawn 😁

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Honestly why are you worried about social pressure? All you need to do is find a partner (if you want one) that feels the same way. It's nobody else's business, period.

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Having kids (and I can't imagine life without them) has made me understand even more why people don't want them. It's not for everyone and who cares! People who are insecure about their choices get anxious when they perceive that their peers aren't making the same choices. But that's their shit not yours so ignore it and show them you bank statements and passport stamps to shut them up 😉

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I am married but I am choosing to stay as childless. I do not want to bring another baby to this world when there are millions kids are suffering or either dying. If I cant save at least one of them I don't deserve to have my own baby.

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Analyst1: 😘😘😘

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I don't want to have kids and honestly do not feel social pressure to do so. I am pretty direct and upfront about what I want, so it's not like I'm afraid to tell the truth when the topic comes up.

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I do not want them. Never have, never will. Don't waste your time with people who are anything less than supportive of your autonomy and life choices.

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Yes ⬆⬆⬆

Just tell them how much sex you have to try to spawn

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