Question for males here - do you think it’s a turn off if a woman expresses dating with intention early on in dating? 32F just got out of a year long relationship and can’t do another failed relationship / situationship again. It’s so exhausting

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You do you. The right one will stick.

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Doing it after 30 sounds convenient!

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What's your type OP? Early 30s M.

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If it is for a guy than you know you’re answer concerning him. You don’t want him. The right guy will welcome clear intentions and honesty.

No, not a turn off.

I think a better question is, would you bring up the intention on first date or before you even meet, online?

Also, guy could say they are looking for long term but open to short, depends on the person.

I think letting people know what they are looking for off the bat isnt a bad thing. I’m a mid 30s M and I’d appreciate it. Like you said it may help with weeding out certain individuals who may waste your time

It’s a turn on when a woman lets me see her turn down another boy for me. Then she has all my attention!

If the person is right, you can’t mess it up but if it’s the wrong person, you can’t make it work. The right person won’t be scared off by your intentions and as another person said, you will just weed out the people who are only interested in wasting your time.

What city are you based in Op?

Intention is a major turn on. Something to remember though. Women tend to be selectively intentional sometimes. They casually continue to sleep around with certain type of men, and do intentional dating with a certain kind of men. Women are entitled to do that. But this is likely not a healthy approach to go with. If there is no such selective intentionality, any grown guy who knows what they want would really appreciate it. There could be some people that would find it a turn off, as they may think that you’re being desperate but that conclusion is born out of their lack of maturity. And you’re likely better off not dating them.

Thank you for asking this. Nice to see that more people appreciate intentionality! (30F here)

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