Sigh.. really struggling today mentally. I’m not happy with where I’m at right now. My job seems to forget that I have ADHD, and totally disregards my needs. Sigh. So depressed rn. I just can’t deal with it.

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Did you communicate the specific accommodations that you need? Have you discussed those accommodations with Talent to make sure they are reasonable? Our colleagues don’t have a medical background to understand all the nuances of ADHD.

Deloitte offers free therapy sessions, search for IMHS internally and they can connect you with someone. You may also get someone specialized with ADHD.

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Hi SM 1. Yes and yes talent is aware. I’m just annoyed that my SM doesn’t get it sometimes and is perpetually harassing me with developmental feedback over trivial details and using that against me in snapshots. At this point I think I may need to switch projects/teams to get away from this person.

Just came here to say I feel this and I’m sorry ❤️

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Sounds like a vacation day is in order. Schedule some PTO and give yourself a much needed day to just do Nothing. Rot on the couch and be as “lazy” as you can. I have to do this at least one weekend day a month or I burn out

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If I were you, I’d make most weekends like this whenever possible. I need a LOA to be quite honest. The bullshit I’m dealing with currently is insurmountable outside of work and just impossible at work. See my comment below

What do you need?

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Support, and understanding when performing I have noticeable idiosyncrasies from my disability and am constantly coached about it not because it affects work quality but it’s more a vanity/optics piece for them. Frankly I have enough documentation at this point to escalate this if I wanted or even sue. I’m just tired of this crap.

OP, I read your responses and I am going through the same thing re: developmental feedback over trivial details (not to mention being told I need to change some of the ways I work—which every other workplace has never seen a problem with because I drive high quality results—to better fit other people) and vanity/optics feedback.

It’s quite frankly BS and so very draining to deal with. I can’t imagine also dealing with a cancer diagnosis and elder care on top of that.

Ultimately your mental and physical wellbeing and that of your loved ones is the most important thing and needs to be prioritized.

I agree with the LOA as a short term solution but also agree with you that you need to find a way to get away from this SM and find a mentor or supervisor who cares less about optics and understands that your work quality is the actual important thing here.

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Thank you M1 for your understanding and support. There is also the unfortunate reality of this project’s culture. They have unrealistic and reactive expectations from us to action on a consistent basis. There’s also either a significant amount of pressure from stakeholders in the business that wants us to do things shooting form the hip, or there’s a severe knowledge gap with what our development partners are doing, with no alignments and not enough structure. I’ve tried to introduce ideas to make the work more manageable but anything I say or suggest seems to not be received well and is instantly pushed back on. With constant, tight deadlines and unreasonable expectations, it’s impossible to keep the staff motivated to do the work. I understand that project work doesn’t always have a predictable workflow and there are crucial things that pop-up on occasion but to have that be the standard of business is totally unacceptable to me. It stresses me out to no end and doesn’t meet my or the teams needs to do the work effectively.

Thanks y’all, appreciate everyone’s empathy and responses to me. To add some context, there are also, multiple factors outside of work that are driving the depressive sentiments right now. I’m battling a recent cancer diagnosis, helping to care for a parent who is in the early stages of dementia, oh and to top it all off, I was mugged last week on the way home from an event in the city where I live.

You definitely need a LOA - get FMLA documents from HR (email them to ask so you have a paper trail of requesting FMLA support), have your doctor fill them out and you submit to HR. This protects you from them firing you as much as you can be protected from that.
I took intermittent FMLA when I had cancer so I could take time off when I was feeling crappy and didn’t have to use it all in one big 12 week chunk.

Best of luck 🙏 and sorry you’re going through it

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