Single parent dating question for men. Do you date single mothers? What advice would you give a single mom looking to date?

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I’m a single mother and my child has issues. However, this is what makes me successful in dating markets. 1) I never weight over 120lbs my whole life and does work on my face. 2) My son has a trust and I make good money. I am not looking for someone to spend good money on my son, college, house, etc (of course I don’t like cheap men that won’t even buy a 6-year-old a meal). 3) I don’t expect him to take on the father’s role. My son and my ex are best friends. If my ex helps me with picking up and dropping off, I thank him appropriately. 4) He shouldn’t expect me to take on the mother’s role of his child either. 5) Things I could and should work on: emotional stability, it is a little hard to be a single mother with a stressful job. Better communication that is respectful.

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spot on. #1 point is #1 for a very good reason.

OP, Single dad to grown-up kids here. Have dated many single moms. In my experience, they tend to be more mature and understanding relative to women of the same age with no kids.

As far as advice, here are a few thoughts based on my experience.

1. Be clear about what kind of relationship you want and "explicitly" communicate that up front. Otherwise, you'll waste a lot of time

2. Also, explicitly communicate your commitments as a mom and general availability to date. I was dating someone with a high schooler, and the entire weekend she would spend shutting her son around for volleyball tournaments. That left little time for us

3. You're best success for an LTR is likely to be with men that have kids the same age as yours. You guys might have to align schedules to make it work. Men with older kids OR men without kids may not be willing to compromise on your limited availability as they are in a different stage in life than you

4. If you're looking for companionship and short-term relationships, you should have no problems. Not sure how long you have been single but may not be bad in the near term?

5. Also, I respect women who say that their child comes first. If a man can't understand that, then don't even bother

All the best! You got this.

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I actually tell guys who hear that from a woman to pass. Any woman who feels the need to articulate that is not worth investing in. Yes a considerate man KNOWS a single mother’s children will be prioritized, he doesn’t need to be told to his face his position on the totem pole.

HARD pass.

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Single moms are hot

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I am single mom of 2 ,l get hot every day and I am really ready to settle down with Any single Dad or just single but ,l am 37 from Nigeria ,l am ready to relocate

it really depends on your situation and what you are looking for as an end result.

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Well if not explicitly marriage then a marital type of relationship with long term commitment even if we don’t sign papers

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You will have a better chance at finding a single dad than someone with no children. So may be focus on that demographic for better results. Cuz they can understand and relate to your situation more.

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My thoughts too

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Never, ever tell a man “my son/daughter comes first” unless you want to sabotage any possibility of finding a decent man.

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Also my work has come before my child forever. I can’t stop climbing the corporate ladder and it benefit him too. He has a problem of me breaking up with his “best friend” and that is heart breaking

Ok enough of these comments. Do you want to meet-up OP?

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I’m 2nd, kindly

I think this all depends on your age and the age of your child / children, and ultimately what age you are looking to date

I understand but what age range in a man are you looking for ? Men in their 20s or 30s may not be interested in something serious with a single mom . 40s , 50s may be different

dont hold back and go fir what makes you happy in life, life is to short so have fun but be safe

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