What do you do to manage the stress of a bad boss?

I have an SVP who is so aggressive in every meeting that I’ve started having anxiety attacks whenever I know we have something scheduled. Intense micromanaging, negative, triple A-type personality. This is a woman, a point I only make so we’re not assuming the “aggro bro dude” situation.

Now I’m finding this intense anxiety sitting with me even when I’m off work.

How do you manage your mental health when someone like this is unavoidable?

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VPC - sadly the business attracts these narcissistic personalities and bullies. They destroy people, and management does nothing to intervene. Anxiety is a mental health issue and not to be trifled with. My advice is to see your GP and have your situation documented. If needed gave them sign you off to get you out of the line of fire. Once you have the documentation, take it to HR and explain the situation and request them to intervene. They have a legal duty of care to do so. If they resist you must see an employment lawyer. If no resolution ask for a compromise agreement and get out.

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Following, as I, unfortunately, have a similar situation.

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Get a male manager. I’m not even kidding. As a woman I’ve never experienced vitriol like I have working for other women. I took it home with me. I had to quit.

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I’ve had this as well. A couple therapy sessions helped me create strategies when dealing with him directly. Thankfully mine got much better and I’m about to have a new boss. If it didn’t I was prepared to find another job. Just know your self worth and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

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