What is the difference between being sober and being in recovery?

“Sobriety is simply the state of living without substances. However, recovery involves healing mentally, physically, and emotionally (and maybe also spiritually) from not only your substance abuse but also the causes of your substance abuse. Recovery is about hope, healing, and health.”

Any advice for talking about managing anxiety with a doctor for the first time? I (finally) scheduled an appointment with my primary care doc, and I feel like I don’t even know where to start.

Can someone please explain to me how after going to the gym for two weeks, I have only gained like 4 or 5 pounds, when before going I would be loosing weight ? I don’t think I am eating more now, about the same as before. I get not loosing weight after just two weeks, but gaining ????????????? Help!

Any tips for keeping up with exercise now that busy season is hitting? I feel like I was good about it when lockdown first stayed but as things have gotten busies I’ve fallen off the wagon.

Fell into a deep depressive suicidal hole and missed work for two days. Honestly surprised I woke up the second missed day, took a bunch of pills. Now need to face family and work. Don’t know what to do next.
What do I even say to my manager? Do I just show up and not say anything? How will this hurt my career?
My family I know it would hurt but I can be honest there at least. Plan to speak to family once I can come to terms with being alive.

Hi fishes,
I have recently joined a product based startup and I'm unable to do tasks in the timely manner. I used to be productive before coming here and used to complete all the tasks before time. There is a lot of job insecurities coming in my mind, also there's a huge lifestyle change coming up in 4-5 months I'm getting married. Not sure how to deal with everything and expenses. What to do? All advices are welcome. Thanks

Every time I eat, I get congested/phlegmy and I have to clear my throat or cough or cough for about 30 minutes after. What causes this? How to fix? I tried allergy meds, didn’t help much.

Been running on self-will for the duration of this lockdown. My reserves that I built up in this program are depleted. Thankfully I was able to attend a meeting this evening, and the topic was 3rd step. Funny how that happens. Good reminder that a life run on self-will can hardly be a success.

Anyone started lifting weights as a noob and use an online instructor? I’m early 30s, have been good about cardio for the past year and now want to build a lil muscle but don’t have time for a trainer

Just took 10mg of melatonin,is that too much🧐

I am a fitness and wellness oriented person. I enjoy taking care of myself and I do enjoy working out. I try to stick to things I enjoy and have fun doing. However, I am struggling now to commit to exercising. I even went down to just doing a walk outside and doing strength training in my rec room 1x-2x a week… and I’ve unable to do that.
Anyone else experience this? Any idea on how to feel excited and energized about working out?

Hello! What does everyone do for health insurance? Are there any unions or anything we can join to get better rates for family healthcare?

Hi everyone! I’m having a rough week with interviews and PPCs.

Is there hope out there for ppl with ADHD to get promoted or have SR roles? Do you ever feel like your ADHD is what keeps you from being a top candidate ?

Asking for a friend AKA my brain 😞

Did anyone experience extreme fatigue, difficulty sleeping/insomnia, nausea/lack of appetite after progesterone in oil shots? Wondering if this is normal or a reaction.

When you're so unhappy at work that you get diagnosed with depression.

My therapist just told me I'm depressed..do you ever feel like they tell you things you hear a lot or could have figured out on your own? Like take care of yourself, it's ok to feel such and such, etc. I'm still newer to therapy so wondering if that's the common experience? Do you ever have moments where you're like wow that actually is eye opening and I wouldn't have gotten that from reading self help books and websites etc?

Has anybody gone through robotic Myomectomy for fibroids and been successfully pregnant? Does it lead to any tissue scaring which may prevent you from getting pregnant?

9/21 check-in: What are everyone’s plans for today?

For me- treadmill, chest, shoulders.

Have a “technical” phone interview with an FDD Manager coming up. Any advice on what to study for a “technical” interview? Currently an A2 in audit looking to jump to FDD.

Hello, I’m from EY UK PAS

I’m thinking of moving to EY Dubai - has anyone done this ? Process easy ?

Anyone ever change from being a creative/copywriter to another path? I'm soooo done (like drs say I need a break done), but have been in this so long I'm not sure what else I can do with this skillset.

! The international Girls Academy is launching a Global Education Week from April 11-19, they have some really amazing projects for teachers and students. And it’s free! Email:theinternationalgirlsacademy@gmail.com for more info!

Differences between advertising/creative agency and design agency life for accounts? Thinking of making the move.

Fellow EY, I got an offer base 135k for S4 NYC office, FSO. Does it sound okay?

What revelations have you received from God during this pandemic?

Is moving from one big four to another right after promo to the SM/Director level a bad move? Any concerns with starting a new as a brand new SM/Director?

Anyone in FP&A hiring?

Can anyone recommend a recruiter that works with candidates?

I am 29F and earning 13LPA. I have been working for 4 years of which 3.5 years I had very low pay and close to 0 savings. I have been able to save 6L now.

My investments below:
* Elss funds - 2 (total 1.5L annually)
* Large cap mutual funds - 6 (total 40K sip per month) current portfolio of 4L
* FDs - 2 of 25K each
*Medical insurance - company provided

Can someone advice if this is a good investment plan for future? What can I do better? Do I need another Insurance? Where else to invest?

This is Aditya Chickerur from Hyderabad. I am looking for a job in IT sector. Input will me much appreciated

May have an opportunity to transition out of patient care into working remotely from home doing healthcare Recruiting. Would be a pay cut, is it worth it ?

What is Software Engineer (L3) (Java) position in Amdocs?

Hi All, Any opportunity for PMO? I have overall 10 years of exp in which 8 years of PMO exp in the area of Project mgt, Resource mgt, Cost Budgeting, Contract Mgt, Revenue forecast, MIS reporting, Risk and Compliance.

Free, healthy lunches at the office. Why isn't it a thing?

This time last year I knew I needed to stop drinking, but I couldn’t. This year, though, I’m putting my health first. Starting day 2 of sobriety and hope to keep it up. Thanks to this group for all the support and encouragement shown to those of us struggling with such powerful addictions.

Got two job offers after a stressful three months of job searching. I really want to have a drink or eat an edible to celebrate. Faaaak

13 years, 3months and 21 days! Its not been easy, but definately can be accomplished! Hard work, GOD a a desire to change, and not in that order!

I’ve been sober about 14 months, and now with things opening up more I’ve been going out to dinner, concerts etc with friends. I’ve been finding it hard to have fun, or not get restless while out. I think a large part of this is maybe I find the company around me boring? and they’re also all drinking. Maybe I just needed to write that out and vent to say, I’m bored! Maybe saying that out loud will help me get out of my comfort zone to find new activities that change my outlook.

Just wanted to post an update. 68 weeks ago I posted about my drinking problems. It was bad. It’s been 8 months now without a single drink. I still can’t believe it. I still miss drinking. I’ve sat with coworkers and watched them drink. It’s not nearly as fun, but I am so thankful each morning I can hold my head up high. Will I drink again? I only said I would quit for 60 days. Can I have a beer? Some wine? A fine bourbon? I sometimes crave it. I guess there is the answer! You can all do this!

Recently had a friend tell me about Kill The Can. Says he posts there every day to help keep the addiction out in the open. He is now over 1000 days clean.
Is there anything like this out there for SA/PA? My highest stint of days was 237 and haven’t gotten close since. Mostly making it 1 month and then falling again…
Thoughts?

My sibling is currently going through opioid withdrawal and my family and I would like her to go to detox. She’s insisting that detox isn’t helpful, and just makes her want to use (She has run from detox 5x over the past 4 years). She would like to detox at home instead, but if she is going to go to rehab, I she needs to spend at least some time in detox.

Should we let her detox at home or is this just asking for trouble? Can provide more details in the comments, but there is a character limit

4+ months sober. I do zoom AA every day but this was the first time I shared as a newcomer. I have some phone numbers from the group and hoping to get a sponsor soon. I plan to be sober 1 year before I can think of doing the steps. I read Living Sober and The Big Book every day in addition to prayer and mindful meditation. But would love to chat with someone “telephone therapy” can be something like Discord or WhatsApp.

Is Al Anon really helpful for spouses/children affected by alcoholism or other addictions? Does anyone have insight on this

Does anyone have any advice for supporting and coping with someone going through withdrawal? My husband is trying to quit his weed addiction and he has been irritable and mean since he quit. His mood is erratic and he is constantly annoyed w me. I don't even know how to bring this up without setting him off. Just feel like I'm walking on eggshells and I'm emotionally exhausted at this point. Is there anything I can do to help him? Is there anything I can do to help myself cope?

Trying to get my relationship with ADHD meds back under control.. the fear of going a day without is always alwayss worse than the day itself but the fear is nonetheless consuming :/

1st of all: I’m super inspired by this bowl. I’m now mid-30s and recently went 50+ days without drinking and felt good/productive. (Longest streak since before turning 21) But how do you stick with it? I’m conflicted bc I haven’t hit a “rock bottom” and part of me loves a glass of wine to unwind and mark the end of the workday, but I also have a hard time stopping once I start (no such thing as 1 glass). Feel boarder-line between these 2 worlds and unsure where to go. Anyone feel similar?

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

New to recovery and had an intake call with an IOP program. They said all sessions will be on Zoom and I’m really nervous that I won’t connect to the program virtually. Anyone start rehab virtually?

Relapsed, damaged my car pretty badly. No one got hurt fortunately but I feel down and broken, again. Why can’t I stick with sobriety it’s killing me

Does anyone have experience going to AA while still using Plant assisted therapy such as Kratom and medical cannabis. I don’t wanna lie but I want to be accepted as there are only a few meetings here.