What is the difference between being sober and being in recovery?

“Sobriety is simply the state of living without substances. However, recovery involves healing mentally, physically, and emotionally (and maybe also spiritually) from not only your substance abuse but also the causes of your substance abuse. Recovery is about hope, healing, and health.”

Traveling from 🇩🇪 to 🇪🇸 next month. I couldn’t find information about the janssen vaccine, does this still count? Got the jannsen in 06/21 and Comirnaty in 12/21. Do I count as boostered, or do I need a take a pcr test prior?

Any of you psychos don’t listen to something while working out/are content with listening to whatever is playing at the gym? I’ve had my headphones die at the gym before and I left.

Anyone else extreme ? Love the fit life and sometimes will do 2 a days and be ok with eating one meal, but other times will spend the day barely moving and eating on my sofa. Can’t escape fatty life

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Staying at a Hilton currently and have had tons of minor issues in the 3 days We’ve been here. Room wasn’t ready for 45min after check in time, AC did not work, maids did not clean room...continued

Any accounting firms offer PPO($30 -100)copay a visit type insurance? I’m not a fan of these high deductible plans…

Is anyone spending an abundant amount of time evaluating and tracking quarantine cases, attending internal Covid updates and other tasks associated with Covid at work ?

Covid 19 survey …. Can the offer be rescinded if I attest that I am not vaccinated ? Pros vs cons of attending dlaunch in person vs virtual ?

For those who were diagnosed as an adult can you provide some insight into how you were able to obtain a diagnosis. I went to my primary care dr who referred me to another dr who specialized in mental health. He asked me about 5 questions before telling me I should see a neuropsychologist for an official assessment. The referral he gave me is super pricey and apparently isn’t covered by insurance. Is that normal?

Anyone noticed that with aerobic / cardio exercises it gets more difficult to focus? It is like my mind a TV and someone else gets the remote and goes through every channel every 30 seconds or so

Any suggestions for healthy self help books? Or healthy eating or understand why we get cravings? Looking for self help books alone those lines to help get my eating right

I’ve made it 5+ years in a NY M&A practice and have consistent exceeding expectations reviews. I’ve had a few mental breakdowns because of work during this time, but thankfully made it through. I’ve been in a near constant depressive/anxious state for family reasons for the last year and half, and am soon having my first kid. I’m scared shitless that I’ll spiral out of control both at work and at home if something doesn’t change soon. Any suggestions on how to keep this job and keep it together?

anyone know if diagnosed depression can be considered a short term disability? it's wreaking havoc with everything professionally

I joined my current company 3 months ago when I suffered from depression, but I didn't tell the recruiter or anyone. Now I feel I'm really not able to contribute 100% in my current role, but I don't want to share my depression with my employer. I still need the $. Suggestion please?

New job at a smaller law firm which provides a stipend for health insurance vs group coverage. Any recommendations for NY health insurance?

If I do boot camp T/Th (10 lb dumbbells, typically full body strength but occasionally emphasis on one area + hiit), what workouts should I be doing mwf? I had been running but now I’m wondering if I should try to do more strength training. It would be very challenging for me to make it to a gym but I have weights/peloton at home. I’m female. Weight is healthy BMI but on the brink of overweight with all my extra weight being legs and butt.

Have any of you developed tolerance to ADHD meds in the past? Makes me feel like something is wrong with me

Anyone leave Deloitte for Booz Allen? Thoughts or experiences? Utilization and compliance are absolutely doing my head in.

What is the CTC offered for grade C4.3E in Software AG in Bangalore?

Is there a limit on the number of clothing items you can give your villagers?

bonus letter received?

Guys once u start getting letters for tax pls ping here, not sure if today also tax people will get letters

Watch aficionados - Any suggestions for women’s watches (or unisex) 1-2K? Have been eyeing Nomos but love rose gold and price point for nomos rose gold is significantly higher

Is there an easy way to find high floor rental apartments?

Anyone from the states did a deployment here through work? Any advise on how to go about it?

What is your favorite free, file sharing collaboration site? I am building a birthday mashup video and have friends and family submitting numerous video clips and photos that I would like to house in one place with folders. Want easy upload and download.

I recently took a sick day and felt like my team was judging me / didn’t believe me. How do you approach taking time of when you are legitimately at a breaking point? AND if people ask

Question: do guys like glasses on women?

Hello there! I have been interviewing with Amazon for L6 Sr. UX Designer role. I want to understand what’s the salary range I should be negotiating for that role. I have no clue what big company like amazon and Facebook pays for someone with 10 years of experience. Any help and pointer will help me with the negotiation. Thank you.

Consultant making 75K. Can’t really save much after 401K and $1300 rent. Should I have more left over every month than I do? Almost $0 right jow

What are some things you guys wish you knew before you started your NetSuite implementation?

I’m at a small company that’s sort of becoming medium sized, and a new exec pushing to quickly implement NetSuite and I just want to make sure we’re not getting in over our heads, he’s trying to get this done within two months

We currently use Salesforce, quick books, and excel, we’ll be consolidating a lot of accounting and finance stuff into netsuite and integrating it with Salesforce

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

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my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.