What would you do if you were told off by your white boss/partner in front of other associates and a client? Would that be reason enough for you to quit? I'm trying to decide if I'm overreacting.

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I’d probably secure another position first, then quit with zero notice. And file a complaint on the way out…

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Dressing down in front of others should never be necessary, but do you think the criticism was justified? Have you otherwise enjoyed working with this person? Is this a pattern of behavior for them or were they having an off day? Can you avoid working for this person? Do you have other partners you like working with?

My view is, it’s your firm too, and you shouldn’t have to leave because of one asshole. But of course, depends on individual facts and circumstances.

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I’d feel disrespected and humiliated. It doesn’t matter what it was that’s just not the way to deal with people. Ugh I’m sorry

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This is completely inappropriate and ghetto. It makes him and the firm look bad and unprofessional. I’d find another job and file a complaint on the way out after I’ve given notice so that if others complain about it they have the ammo they need need. If there was a genuine need to address a deficiency with you or your work, that could’ve been done outside of the presence of the team and especially not in front of the client.

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The same thing happened to me recently. I am a WOC and a white/male partner berated me in front of another associate and team. It is completely unacceptable and I am looking for another job.

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Wow. I would not tolerate that at all. You are not overreacting in the slightest. That is so unprofessional and immature. I woudl absoltely start looking for something else. That place sounds very toxic.

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Publicly humiliating you is abusive. It is intended to undermine your authority. It can backfire by making the aggressor look bad for how they are treating their team. If I were the client, I would question whether to keep working with this partner and firm.

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It's really hard to give advice without knowing the details of what went down. If you can share more about the circumstances and what was said, you'll probably get some solid and relevant advice.

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