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Guy here... Wont mince words and sorry in advance if anyone feels offended.
I prefer peace, growth, mutual respect. Rights come with responsibilities. I just dont want to deal with the entitlement.
People expect to be treated like queens, but wont reciprocate the king treatment. Make that make sense to me.
No offense but if maintenance cost and issues are the same, I would rather go for a 2020 Range Rover than a 1988 model.
Seek someone that will reciprocate, alot of times we are not honest about the fact that our ‘Type’ may not give us what we actually want in a relationship. Many are not ready to have that conversation. There are plenty of women that are ready to give king treatment but she just might be outside of what you would typically go for 👀
Dating at 30+ is like picking seats long after boarding started. Most of the good ones are taken, and you’re deciding what you can live with. The ones you find probably have a reason why they aren’t already in a long term relationship.
A1 “probably” implies it’s more statistically likely. Not saying it applies to everyone. But you have a much higher chance of running into someone who is “still single” for a reason.
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These type posts are funny bc of the amount of “taken” men who secretly want out of their relationship but simply stay bc change is hard.
It’s an availability problem.
If you go out to the sticks, everyone is married and pregnant by 25. In the big city, add 10 years while people spend more time fooling around and having fun until the biological clock starts ticking and everyone rushes to settle down.
Im male 37 I'm looking for commitment not just fun. I Am ready to settle down and anybody that is serious about that and has their own goals and drive is appealing to me. I'm not looking for anyone that isn't trying to better themself.
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For me it’s been hard to find any woman that’s over 30 that is kinda on board with the life I want, and I often find entitlement to a huge problem as well in most my time dating. I always ended things with these short term dating partners and almost always I look at my financial statements and find it hard to justify it.
Nah the divorces are coming soon. And they’re improved bc wife #1 made them relationally functional ❤️
I met a few guys whose first spouse cheated on them. I would consider a guy like that a catch
After 30, the dating playing field shifts in favor of men. As you said, most of the good ones are already taken by then.
Around 45, many of them will hit mid life crises, get divorced and come back on the market.
I had a long string of bad relationships and the latest one set me over the edge and made me look at myself. I turned a lot of good ones away for the bad boys with nothing to offer. I turn 50 this year and luckily one that I had turned away 30 years ago was still waiting on the sidelines. I wouldnt have known this was the one if it wasnt for those bad relationships along the way. I think sometimes its not finding the person, its the deep soul searching inside yourself that enables you to find it and until that happens you wont know its a good thing till it slaps you in the face, Not everyones experience but it happened to me! lol
Hey there, its always possible to meet the right person at any age. However, it takes time, efforts and patience. I read some books that helped me during my dating phase -
1. How to not die alone by Logan Ury
2.Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb
The books are about looking or aspects that actually matter in a relationship
I also recommend you to be open to meeting people in neighboring cities or states, if you are able to meet them on a weekly basis.
Good luck
I’ve read / tried to read both of these and while i enjoyed how not to die along, I couldn’t get through marry him. The first half of the book really bothered me. Was there something in the second half that was eye opening? (Seriously asking, not trying to be mean!!)
When I met my wife, she was 29 and I was 34. We had both been through the wringer from past experiences. She didn't dump me when I barfed in public during one of our first dates. I drove her home when she was out of it due to dehydration (she had manual transmission, which I hadn't driven since driver's ed class) and put her to bed. Her friends' kids thought I was cool, which was an important test. Maybe we lucked out. You can too. Don't give up hope.
Sadly this is the reality, girl 😔 I wish someone had told us sooner.
But that doesn’t mean to give up hope! You can still find someone suitable, might just take some time and you might need to settle a bit
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So what has been your eligibility criteria so far?
Here I am as a 30M who has never been in a relationship. I think I am cooked because women want guys who have experience.
You are definitely not cooked, you dnt need several heartbreaks/situationships to have a successful relationship. You just need someone willing and patient to experience alot of firsts with.
I’ll be honest, as 33M, I’m looking primarily for someone in the 26-29 year age range
Unfortunately, I only date Jews 😅
If they are all those things, that would make them ineligible as opposed to eligible... eligible means single and available.
OP: Last year around valentine day Fishbowl created special bowl around match making. Save your post that bowl. You never when Cupid hits.
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