38M, this is my dating story over the last 3 months...

36 and gorgeous. Perfect in every way, except she is emotionally unavailable.

37, divorced, has a kid (no problem). Hits on married men at the bar while we were on a date. Thought I was crazy until the wife of one guy confronted her.

30, so hot. But crazy.

Kill me now.

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What do people consider gorgeous here? Like they could do modelling? Be an influencer?

I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But everyone here have gorgeous dates and I'm like... 😩🥴 I'm probably uglyyyy

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In all honesty, it’s very hard to answer that question without seeing a picture. Being totally real with you. Can’t ask random strangers anonymously how they define “gorgeous” without going through a bit of a sampling exercise.

Also, why do you think you look unattractive? Has someone told you that or these are your own insecurities? I think every person on earth feels unattractive / ugly to some degree, including your celebrity crushes etc. We’re all human. Some of us are not blessed with amazing genes and some of us are. That’s life. But what I will guarantee you is that there’s a person for everyone out there.

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I’m a single male, wanna go on a date? I bet it would be the best date ever

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I gave up on dating. It's all emotionally unavailable or crazy on dating apps.

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This is my personal hell

I’ve had experiences with all of the above but the second one was the worst - how shameless or fucked in the head do you have to be to hit on someone else while you’re on a date? I instantly walked out of that date (it was later into the night when it happened). Online dating has become horrible. I’ve spent a lot of money on these apps and they’re all useless.

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Guys sorry you’re dealing with this but telling you as a F, my experiences aren’t any different than what you described. Some stories are much worse. I think in general, collectively people in their 30s and 40s just aren’t able to deal with the emotional trauma in the way we need to. So everyone just dumps on the next person and so on. Most of it isn’t intentional, at least that’s what I believe, so I just move on to the next.

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Im fairly normal (for the most part 😛). Do you want to date me?

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lol I can relate to this.

36f - dismissive avoidant

38f - another avoidant? (tbd)

31f - lies on profile? TBD

36f - puts in zero effort / unmatched real quick

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Yeah declining drinks and demanding dinner is wild.

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Common theme being gorgeous - consider dating not extraordinary but girl next door type cute women? Good looking people don't have to try hard so they are likely to be jerks and / or lack personality.

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This sounds like the game M, F, K. 30 is F, 37 K and 36 M. Just have to work on the unemotional aspect which could be possible. It just requires a lot of openess, and being the one to stand in the fire so she gets comfortable with whatever trauma shut her down.

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Yeah i thought the same thing about MFK, lol, but didn't want to say anything. But yeahhhh....

Hahahahah how do you meet them…

Good girl not on dating apps…

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Where are you located?

Nyc area

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Send me the crazy 30 year olds info lol

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