Caught my boyfriend of 3 years on Tinder (while he was back home visiting) cause a stranger DMed me screenshots of his profile. Turns out he tried asking a girl out several times. He said he did it cause he wanted validation. I don’t know what to do and I can’t stop thinking.

I'm not sure what else I did other than being respectful and not giving flip at the same time but (4) mature ladies in my office flirt with me every chance they get. Some of my M colleagues are beginning to notice and giving the prod. I must confess it comes with some perks as I do appreciate how fast they process my requests/orders which a M colleague literally told me is biased. Recently one of them offered to bring me her cooked food and asked that I do the same..(Cont'd)

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

Hi. Can I bounce some ideas for a spot off one of ya?

Wow this bowl is dead...no one single in La?

Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

Is my relationship worth it? Met my SO of 3 years senior year of college. Hoped we would graduate and start our full time jobs together, but my SO is unfortunately still in school (switched majors, transferred schools, etc). Our relationship has taken a big hit, as I am moving forward with my life but he is still in school and can’t find a job. I am also starting to resent him and he is turning more insecure. I am only 23, is this worth it?

How many of you are staying in a marriage where there’s lack of true love but there is comfort or kids or whatever else holding you back? I crave that love but it’s easier to just stay put than leave. Sigh

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

Have a crush on my co-worker. He asked me out to go rock climbing one-on-one after we were texting for a while and I acted awkwardly when we went because I didn’t know if it was a date (nothing was explicitly said). Now I’m stuck in this weird limbo state where things have fizzled out but I’m re-reading texts and think he might’ve actually had a crush too and I pushed him away. Ambiguity sucks.

Hey guys, planning to shift to Kolkata on 1-Aug-22.

Please guide me on best place/area to reside with small family.
I am coming from Hyderabad with family and a pet dog and looking forward to a good society with amenities.

Thanks!!

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

How do you deal with your boyfriend still being friends with someone he slept with before? Kind of bothers me but not sure if it’s normal....

Not sober currently. But think about it.
What happened to all your mates when you stopped? Did they dump you (because you make them feel guilty for drinking)? And what if your wife drinks too?

Does anyone think that it’s wrong to just not need a lot of companionship? I have an SO, decent family members and I guess a few friends. And I really don’t feel the desire to surround myself with peo

Where are the matured girls? Done with the kids!

What is the recommended minimum income I need in Redmond / Seattle with a family with 2 kids? I've got a job offer ~250k$ and would move from Europe to the US.

What law firm is your favorite for run of the mill employment issues in the US and internationally (India, Australia, UK, Germany, etc.). I primarily use Littler because they have a broad reach and decent rates but I’m wondering whether Bird & Bird, Ogletree, or some other firm has similar pricing and as good or better quality work. So, who are you using and are you happy?

What’s the pay rate for Full Time for Senior Integrated Producer - 10+ years of experience. Job is with agency and client is in tech.

Best way to learn python for free? I know r and sql pretty in depth but need to learn this.

Hi fishes,
I was wondering if I put down my resignation now. And in case after a few weeks I decide to stay back, can I withdraw my resignation?

Supply chain issues are still a problem. And Fisher and VWR (Avantor) are as greedy as ever. I’m considering looking into starting or investing into a U.S. manufacturing based lab supply company. Thoughts? Anyone work for these companies that can discuss logistics and potential challenges?

Question for ex-consulting (esp MBB) folks who landed up at Google - are you happy with the decision you took? Why / why not? I'm an MBB Consultant with an offer for a role in Strat Ops in another country. Also evaluating a similar role in a fast growing, publicly lister SaaS company closer to home - faster growth, more flex to work remotely. Want to understand if consulting folks are happy with Google overall, despite a potentially slower / more open ended growth path.

How is work life balance at Deloitte India?

Why did you decide to leave your first firm job? If you had a chance to jump ship but stayed, why did you stay?

A summer associate has a side hustle business. It’s ok until they are barred right?

How long does a Defendant have to oppose a motion for leave to amend a Complaint in Florida for a matter pending in the Eleventh Judicial Circuit, Miami-Dade County?

Who’s made the switch from a city agency to Jersey? How was the adjustment?

How important are Sundays in your coaching world?

Quick question

expected CTS for 3.6 YOE as front end (react) developer?

Hi everyone,
I passed my PMP thanks to this sub group.
I have passed Above Target in the People section, and T in the other sections.
It was 95% situational questions.
Thave used AR's mock exams, and used my wrong answers to figure out my weakness and where I truly stand. I didn't purchase AR's course, just the mock exam simulator.
The 200 agile questions by David McLachlan were amazing, it really helped me in adapting to an agile mindset. TIA simulator n Joseph Phillip is useful.

IQVIA - 33.5 lacs Fixed, 1.5 lacs Joining Bonus, 4.8 lacs Variable
CGI - 34 Lacs Fixed, 1.12 Lacs worth Stock options, 2Lacs Joining Bonus(will be deployed to work for Shell Client)
Siemens Healthineers - Awaiting offer, not willing to match above offers, maximum they can offer 33L as fixed and 2 Lacs Joining Bonus.

which one to choose?

YOE - 13 Years Skill Set: Agile, Scrum

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29F Indian, based out of Atlanta, looking for someone interesting and meaningful enough to make me want to talk after BSing at work all day long!

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Would it be bad if I change my start date? I proposed to my employer a start date 2 weeks after I quit my job, but now that I think about it, I feel like I need a week to recharge before starting a new job.

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.

I’m not having harmful thoughts but I’m so sad and scared I wake up in the night crying. It makes me tired and I can barely focus. Ideas?

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I want to advance in my career, but I have no energy to do anything when I get home, even if it's an early day.

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Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?

Ever had one of those days where everything is just making you cringe so bad, to the point all you want to do is sit on the ground and cry?

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