Divorce or not? Loveless marriage, but love our 2 children and enjoying being close to them. Seeing my brother struggle with joint custody and think this is not for me. Too lazy/busy to rock the boat.

Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Look if you still have the OPTION to stay married do so. The issues that either of you have will just be taken right into the next marriage unless you deal with them. Spend the time and effort to build back the emotional connection and relationship intimacy that brought you together. I'm going through a potential divorce and it's HELL. For all the money we can spend in this we could have gone to counseling, a marriage intensive, and had a couple of vacations. Choose marriage and love, especially for your kids. I am praying we don't divorce because I don't want to lose my best friend.

like

What if other person is not interested in marriage counseling or to look at big picture of raising kids as a family?

I don’t wish any kid to see their parents having arguments, creating tense environment at home impacting kids wellbeing on daily basis.

My 2 cents - if couple is interested in staying married and have some basic intelligence, they will exhaust all the options or resources before talking about D. Sometimes one party may use that word to get other person’s attention and course correction ..

like

Listen to Slalom1

like

Listen to Slalom, going through it now

like

I'm in a similar boat. The wife and I have been together for 15 years, not married but together. The love disappeared quickly after we got married but we have two amazing kids. I'm young enough where I know I could start over with somebody but I don't know if the trauma and drama is worth it. Hoping for some valuable feedback in this bowl.

like

Pls. Do you not think you deserve to find someone that truly loves you? Why settle for less?

like

Related Posts

I got an email last night from a 7th-grade parent because her son said I mentioned the words "male privilege" in class, and she is very concerned about how that is related to ELA (she said "reading"), and she is concerned about this being taught in public schools. To be clear, I didn't do a lesson on this subject but we did discuss rights versus privileges. I've had multiple parents contact the school/get upset with me because of things like his. It's exhausting... Thoughts?

like

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

like

4 year-old pinches kids ears to the point of bleeding/laughs when they cry. We have tried everything; time out, safe space, replacement behaviors, telling him to touch gentle. At my wits end!!!

like

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

like

How do you handle personal investments when married? For example, say you wanted to invest in riskier areas like Bitcoin, Ethereum, defi tokens, etc. Would you talk to your wife before every investment even if it’s time sensitive? Or do you have joint investment buckets where you decide together and then personal investment buckets where you invest on your own? Not married so not sure how this typically works

like

I cringe when I'm at a friend's house and they answer their phone, find out it's a telemarketer, and just hang up on them. It's so rude. They know I have to cold-call people at my job and you'd think they would at least act like they were more respectful of the job.

like

Any other only children out there having weird relationships with their parents? Feels like every time I call them I’m not doing enough with my life, yet neither of my parents worked in my industry. I dread communicating with them, my energy gets drained and I feel unsupported. Help!

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

funnylikehelpful

Starting at PwC next year... newly married (Husband) with a kid on the way. How's life going to be with a newborn as a new associate? I'm older (30) and went back to school for my CPA if that matters.

like

I feel lonely in NYC. Working long hours without life. How to make new friends in NYC?

like

How do you convince your SO to accompany you to Varsity to tick it off your ATL bucket list??

like

Any expats here face pushback from your family for moving to a different country? They always try to shame me for moving so far away around the holidays...

like

Anyone ever have success with requesting AA to transfer a spouse’s separate reservation to your reservation so SO can reap elite status benefit (ie, early boarding/seat selection)?

like

People who have cheated in their previous relationships, how did you come to realize the reason behind your behavior? A close friend confided in me that she has cheated in all her previous relationships and struggles to understand the reasoning behind it. She feels a lot of shame and is trying to understand why she does what she does.I have suggested therapy but she is not ready yet. How did you folks arrive at the root cause behind your behavior? Advice? Book suggestions that I can pass along?

like

How does one find a group of friends? Meeting people individuality or as couples is too much work

like

wish i had friends 😭

Post Photo
like

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

like

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

like

My mom and dad are separating (bad terms) and not speaking, but my mom asks me about him everyday. She knows I don’t want to talk to him or about him, but continues to bring it up everyday.. I’ve resorted to silence or not responding because I always end up being the bad guy when I get annoyed or don’t want to discuss it. Am I wrong here?

like

More Posts

How do I stop comparing myself to others? I know I shouldn’t, but practically speaking I can’t help it... every time I open LinkedIn... and I can’t not go to LinkedIn coz I am job hunting.

like

These recent lay offs have sent me into a tailspin of anxiety. I wake up in the middle of the night panicking. It was so sudden and absolutely blind sighting. The realization that no one is safe is terrifying. Anyone feel this way?

like

Anyone looking for Devops opportunity in Wipro Bangalore ..please DM me for refferal..

like

Hi Folks,

Any idea on the virtusa Citi Bank project, I have been offered for the managerial position and looking out for some real time experience from the guys who are already into the project

like

Anyone got a direction to WFO atleast 1-2 days starting Jan? Gurgaon office.

like

Ladies any recommendation for lash extension in Boston?

I started investing in January 2021 with a current portfolio of 40:60 across Mutual Funds ad stocks. The MF portfolio is giving my a current return of around 10% cumulative whereas the stocks are giving around 6% cumulative.

Not sure how to get the game right.
Views please friends.

I've been trying to get my foot in the door with TikTok by creating a series of content that has never been seen before.

But it's hard for me to get views because I don't know how to use SEO or social media marketing effectively.

like

Wells Fargo referral: Can someone working at WF please refer my profile? I can share the job ID. Please help!

Post Photo
like

Hi
Can anyone tell me if there is any opening at PwC for Angular developers / Salesforce Developer fresher?

What’s the most effective way to train 200+ Staff on new technology or system releases? What do big companies do?

My thoughts are to build a community where Staff can talk and answer each other’s questions through MS Teams, but can that really be done effectively?

like

honest question: why does everyone hate Lewis Brisbois?

likefunny

Is everyone from a big city or do we have some south and midwest represented??

like

Hey, so I’m going to my first 3% conference. I heard it’s usually white feminism x 100. But I was wondering what I should expect? Has anyone been.

like
like

Anyone did a H1B transfer recently using premium processing ? Trying to understand timelines

like

Hi,
I am Mahesh
Now ready to join immediately for Accounts Payable with 25 years experience in proper books keeping and accounting of manufacturing tower crane and civil engineering. I hope you are doing well for me.

Thanks for your support.


Yours Sincerely

Mahesh Shinde

like

mandatory in office time might move to Jan. Would it be cheaper to move to Philly now vs in December?

like

Any good/new halal spots in the bay?

God is so inspiring...

// I'm actually very happy whenever someone beats any terrible disease, even then the amount of cancer beaters is quite overwhelming lately.

Post Photo
likefunny

Additional Posts in DWK (Divorced w/ Kids)

Anyone knows how alimony works ? In terms of salary ? How much more than your partner do you need to make, to be granted alimony… I’m asking because I have seen cases where one person sacrifices themselves studying and working hard, while the other person is basically doing the bare min, and they can get alimony if they separate ? In some cases, for life.

Divorce lawyers in Boston / Worcester?

How do I know if I am ready for a divorce?

like

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

like

Anyone co-parenting in different states? Looking for insight on visitation, general feelings, and how the child/children are doing. Thank you!

Hi all, looking for recommendations for a divorce lawyer in Houston area. Any recommendations would be helpful.

like

Has anyone watched Marriage Story?

like

As a divorcee with a kid, i find it extremely hard to find friends who can relate, or even making friends as it seems there’s a stigma attached to you because your relationship didn’t work out.

Looking to move on, M 35 in NY if any F interested in hanging out DM me

like

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Any tips for someone entering the process? How do I pick a lawyer? Do I try to agree with spouse on terms before finding lawyer? Have material assets accumulated during marriage.

Folks,
Have been married for 15 years and have a kid of 11 years. My spouse is falsely accusing me of domestic abuse and trying to get separated. We have had incompatibility even before marriage on various issues but it was an arranged marriage, we tried to work it out and stay together. Her side is asking her to move on. She has taken my kids passport and kept it with her. What are the options I have to defend myself?

Stupid question but getting a divorce now and having a hard time figuring out what to do with sentimental things such as wedding pictures, travel pics, ornaments we bought together, etc. What did you do? Relationship was over 12 years and don’t know what to do. Should I jus pretend that those 12 years never happened or she was not there?

Divorce is amicable and based on growing apart rather than bc of cheating or fighting or anything else..

If I don’t have kids but I’m divorced. Can I still be part of this bowl?

like

Sister going through divorce with verbally abusive spouse, just received temporary judgement for custody of two year old and was awarded joint custody (she was anticipating she’d get sole custody). It’s tearing her apart and I can’t help/live in another state. Anyone have a good recommendation for family lawyers or counselors in/around Phoenix? Any good support groups that could help?

How’s everyone doing? Any struggle this week?

My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

Could someone suggest a really good attorney for a contested divorce case in SF Bay Area ? Thanks

Has anyone found dating having kids challenging?

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal