Divorce or not? Loveless marriage, but love our 2 children and enjoying being close to them. Seeing my brother struggle with joint custody and think this is not for me. Too lazy/busy to rock the boat.

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Look if you still have the OPTION to stay married do so. The issues that either of you have will just be taken right into the next marriage unless you deal with them. Spend the time and effort to build back the emotional connection and relationship intimacy that brought you together. I'm going through a potential divorce and it's HELL. For all the money we can spend in this we could have gone to counseling, a marriage intensive, and had a couple of vacations. Choose marriage and love, especially for your kids. I am praying we don't divorce because I don't want to lose my best friend.

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What if other person is not interested in marriage counseling or to look at big picture of raising kids as a family?

I don’t wish any kid to see their parents having arguments, creating tense environment at home impacting kids wellbeing on daily basis.

My 2 cents - if couple is interested in staying married and have some basic intelligence, they will exhaust all the options or resources before talking about D. Sometimes one party may use that word to get other person’s attention and course correction ..

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Listen to Slalom1

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Listen to Slalom, going through it now

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Pls. Do you not think you deserve to find someone that truly loves you? Why settle for less?

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