Partners, how have you managed to balance the work, obviously substantial, and your family? I see many with stay-home SO, but wondering if it is possible to prioritize family if your SO has a demanding career

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I agree with everything Partner 1 said, but let me add something. In this past year my wife and I became empty nesters and she filed for divorce.

I always thought I was that guy who provided his family with everything. Made it to every special event, ensured there was never a financial want or need, took the fam on great vacations, parented while showing a good work ethic, and gave my 3 kids individual attention. But what happened was that I was all in with family but my wife and I were not all in with the “we” of the two of us. Yeah, We had date nights and did things with other couples and took trips just the two of us every year. But our fundamental purpose of togetherness was the kids. Once they were gone, with the financial means, we no longer made sense as a couple.

I’m not the only one in this world. I was struck reading about Bill and Melinda Gates. Don’t lose the importance of that “we”, just the two of you. Over a year of marriage counseling did nothing to help us get it back.

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Sorry to hear that and very good advice. I wish you all the best. For all it is worth, I am a firm believer of being with someone who loves you and you love back, and I hope you find it again.

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It is possible. To me it comes down to 5 things:
1. Defining boundaries. Eg there are certain events I will not miss no matter what’s going on at work.
2. Outsourcing all non-priority things that take time away from family.
3. Leveraging opportunities work provides to improve your family life. Eg I take my kid with me on work trips - it’s fun for them and gives us an opportunity to bond while exploring a new city.
4. Juggling a lot with your SO and kids. We have a schedule and sometimes that schedule flies out the window; you just adjust and do your best. If you’re ok with fluidity and sometimes flying by the seat if your pants, you’ll be good.
5. Focusing on quality vs quantity.

Overall, people are very easy to come down hard on our lifestyle and ability to raise kids but the reality is, it is much more flexible than many other professions, and generally people are far more understanding.

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