Engaged and we had a big fight. Obviously there’s a lot more to it but basically we both said something shitty: he said he would get rid of one of our pets while I am out of the house, and I responded with I will leave with all the pets before you do that.

So now he’s thinking that he’s less important and that my threatening to leave puts our whole relationship into question. I have apologized for what I said and recognize how it made him feel, and it was wrong of me…. See rest in comments:

How to deal with the cuffing season? How to deal with the days post family gathering while being alone?

Seen a few posts on people not having/hating on parents with kids. What is your rationale? I for one am excited to have 3 kids running around in the future! Anyone else?

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

What do you do when your lifelong friends get married, have kids and disappear to the burbs or wherever and you’re single, lonely and gay?

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

Women- if your husband says he fantizes about xyz actresses and models- how would you feel?

Would you marry a man with ED if he was perfect otherwise?

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

I’m excited to marry my SO in a few months but I have severe stage fright and do not like being the center of attention. Any advice on how to reduce the anxiety and just enjoy the day?

Alright I’m calling it on my career at the ripe age of 28. Who needs a handsome house husband

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

After nearly a year WFH and being with my family 24/7, I’m not entirely sure we actually like each other. Or maybe they don’t like me being at home. Or they don’t like me. Probably the latter 😞

I have to tell my parents that I got engaged this weekend. They haven’t been taking the coming out well over the last year (i.e have isolated themselves from their community, screaming and crying when I’m on the phone with mom, dad hasn’t spoken to me since July). I’m incredibly nervous about this conversation. Going to have it in about two hours. Any words of advice?

How do you deal with a child who will pee on themselves for the attention? I have a student who does this two-three times a week. I have never experienced his before, and not sure what to do.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

How is Bain & Company’s Healthcare Practice? I know McK is solid for physicians and military folk, but I don’t know anything about how Bain would be for a doc

Hi,
I have got offer from deloitte and oracle with similar ctc, which company should be better to join?

Which company is best ibs vs kpmg

Fishes, is 110K for Senior 3 consultant an average offer?

What vendor do you use for cold direct mail lists?

Best Clothing brands. Drop in your suggestions:

Shirts:
1. USPA
2. Peter England (Formals)
3. Allen Solly ( Comparatively cheaper than other brands)
4. Superdry
5. Levis

Polos:
1. Superdry
2. USPA
3. Calvin Klein
4. Allen Solly
5. Tommy Hilfiger

Tshirts:
1. Levis
2. Superdry
3. USPA

Wallets:
1. Tommy Hilfiger (Buy from Myntra)

Briefs:
1. Calvin Klein
2. Jockey - Only Tactel series

Trunks:
1. Jockey - Only Tactel series
2. Calvin Klein - Established series

Vests:
1. Van Heusen
2. USPA

What does an agency check in the clearance revalidation process? I left one consulting firm to work for another consulting firm at the same agency and am waiting for the go/no go.

Hi Fishes
I have an offer from GlobalLogic , can anyone please share reviews of this organization .
Thanks

Should you discuss salary range with an internal company recruiter prior to setting up an interview? With external recruiters it’s pretty easy to talk about the expected range. I am trying to avoid wasting all of our time if i get to the last interview and they are expecting a salary that is too low for me.

Just curious- what city do most of us live in? I always wonder what city / area has the most consultants. I’m in Orange County, CA.

I keep making stupid minor mistakes at work lately presumely cause I’ve been so burnt out, and my senior is constantly mad at me, which made me want to avoid the dirty work even more… I really should care but is it bad that I don’t really care anymore

Any PE firms buy up mom and pop businesses or firms with valuations of the 10's of millions?

I am an AI consultant and have a data set of potential opportunities. I would like to partner with your firm.

Insurance, medical, restaurant, and others.

Anyone in SF here? Looking to hire a full time social content creator for my company. We do sneakers and streetwear with a brick and mortar in SF.

What are the requirements to promote from analyst to senior analyst? I’ve been with Deloitte for two years now and am wondering how I go about making myself promotable. I don’t have a CPA, CFE, etc. Is one of those required?

What other performance factors are considered for PDM besides utilization?

How much did everyone spend on their wedding planner? We’re planning a Fall wedding in Europe with ~80 people and want a full service planner, have been quoted 9-15K and want to see if this is reasonable! TIA

Tux budget NYC?

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

Putting together a wedding weekend itinerary and have been dealing with a frustrating level of questions from some random in-laws who are known for stirring the pot. Would it be rude to say “please contact x with any questions. Kindly do not direct questions to the bride unless there is an emergency”? What is a better way to say this?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

What is your total “wedding look” budget/est. spend? (Everything including dress, make up, jewelry, shoes, outfit changes, accessories, etc.). I have put so much emphasis on my looks (no regrets) and I actually just tallied up my spend and my head almost exploded. Frankly just seeking a little validation that I am not the only crazy person out there 🙃

If you have a lace wedding dress, would you get a lace veil or a beaded one? It's been hard trying to find similar/exact lace.

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

Getting married in September, have a vax only policy for guests. My fiancé’s sister is bringing her unvaccinated spouse to the hotel where all the wedding festivities are being held b/c she is too scared to fly on an airplane without him. I find this incredibly uncomfortable and selfish given it will put me and my fiancé in an uncomfortable position (and it will also put my elderly parents and other vulnerable fam members at risk). Any ideas as to what (if anything) to do?

Anybody not excited about the wedding? I want to get married to my fiancé but I can’t get excited to pay so much for one day…. I feel bad that I’m not more excited but it’s just so stressful

I just got engaged on Sunday (!!) and my ring is just a little big. I’m reading online that most jewelers won’t resize a rose gold ring. Has anyone had any issues with this? I could go back to the family jeweler who designed the ring and would do it for free but the ring was designed in Michigan and I live in Chicago. Is it worth it to drive to Michigan to get it taken care of there?

We’re having a destination wedding and I feel selfish/silly for taking a honeymoon after. But I feel like if we don’t do it then we will put it off and it won’t really feel like a “honeymoon”. What would you do?

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

My MOH is probably not going to be able to attend my wedding bc of covid restrictions. Freaking out slightly because I don't have someone close enough to replace her / I don't know how viable her zooming in would be? Any advice / tips?

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good premarital counselor in NYC or NJ?