Feel like I’ve come to dread the monthly check-ins with my counselor. Even though I’ve got good feedback, healthy utilization, etc., it seems like it’s not enough in these conversations. Advice?

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It seems like it’s your counselors communication style that’s sending you these negative signals. I think you could try not reading into the way they talk - try to ignore the negative signals.

You could also try expressing this directly to them? Part of your counselors job is to support you and your growth. Help them help you.

Practice with a trusted colleague. Flush out a valuable agenda where it’s 2-sided conversation

Ask for specific behavioral
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