Feeling overwhelmed and guilty love being at work, hybrid teaching, nailing it, come home to a spouse that quit full time job to pursue business who is cranky, defeated, and negative. Can’t comfort them my bucket is empty

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Do you mean comfort or fix? It does not take much energy to just be with someone and listen to them. What takes energy is trying to fix them. What is your spouse looking for? What do you think you need to provide? If he is cranky, defeated and negative, which is understandable then he is the only one who can turn these things around. There are no words that you can say that will take these away. You can listen and help him process, but the hard work is up to him. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Your feelings are as important as his. You are responsible for yours and he is responsible for his. Empathy is the key! This is not an easy thing to do. It takes lots of practice and consistency. Good luck!

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