For some reason, I am still enraged about a customer complaint from a year ago. Haunts me every day. I wish I had defended myself to the director instead of keeping quiet. I need to figure out how to get over this particular incident. I just want to move on. How do you get over low moments? What has helped you?

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I have a big problem with ruminating about past events too, and one of the things that helps me is to read about how to get over it. For instance, here's a guide on how to stop rumination: https://nickwignall.com/stop-ruminating/ Another thing that helps me is to write about it in a journal. And I'll write about it and write about it until I eventually get over it. I hope this helps!

Yeah you gotta just let it go. I'm prone to resentment or rumination as well, and I think acceptance is a big part of getting over something. Remember that it's just a customer, not a person you have to keep interacting with, and try to let it go.

I’m sorry this one stuck with you so long. A coworker once said, “Maybe that’s our bad, expecting people to want to be good or better? Like maybe some people don’t care about being kind or good or helpful?” That stuck with me. Sounds negative, but it did help me navigate some difficult folks from there on out. Don’t stop being the best version of yourself for a job or for yourself even if the other party isn’t trying.

I'm sorry you feel this way still. I'd advice that you treat yourself with self-compassion. If I was your friend and told you a story about a bad customer (I have many) what would you tell me to do? Treat yourself like a friend, we are our own harshest critics. You did something very normal, you wanted to keep your job and kept your head down.

Maybe analyze the situation from a high level. What lessons can you learn from it? Trust your gut? Protect your own mental health/reputation? If this same situation happened again how would you handle it today? It would probably be different, right? You know better now. You’d stand up for yourself. It’s okay to regret things in the past because they teach us how to be better in the future. Hope that helps.

In a client-facing job, some people WILL misjudge you, especially unskilled/unprofessional ones (doesn’t mean they can’t have pull of influence though). As the face of the company, you have to live with it. You’ll take the blame for every single other department at your company. Some of the people you face will not be insightful enough to differentiate the message and the messenger. Good luck with your clients!

It helps to talk to someone about the experience, and to get a different perspective. Writing out my thoughts, and reflecting on what I could have done differently can also help me to gain closure. Practicing self-care and allowing myself to feel whatever emotions come up is the best way for me to process the experience and to move on.

As a manager I was having a bad day and the escalation was yelling and cutting me off. I got fed up and gave back some serious attitude. The call got pulled and my manager and director reviewed. He was pretty disappointed because he expected more from me. I just apologized, said where I was wrong and told him I'm moving forward

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