Has anyone here ever been so miserable in their job, where it’s beyond depression, burnout, and anxiety, but getting physically ill with intense nausea from it? I work with someone who is gaslighting me, incompetent, phony (which I despise more than anything), and disrespecting my time and expertise. Every time I have to interact with them, I’m creating a persona, literally acting, it takes a lot of time/energy, makes me angry, then sick for 24+ hours after. Any tips for how to manage this?..

More people died of covid under Biden than under Trump.

I eat really healthy most of the time but am a complete stress eater when the project gets out of control. Any advice?

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

Small firm (my boss, me, & a paralegal). After a hearing I did not handle, boss intended to seek review of the ruling in its entirety. What was communicated to me by paralegal was to seek review of a portion.

Seeking review is now time-barred. Boss is not upset, but this is 1 case & 1 problem. There are other cases & other stories.

How do I talk to my boss about being more present (boss is never in office, has “too many” emails, never answers his phone) without being seen as insubordinate?

So today was my first day on a stimulant (diagnosed as an adult), and everyone says its suppose to feel like *boom* magic, or normal (?) , I guess. Knowing that is figurative, what should I actually be expecting? I feel mostly the same, I think, though I came in and actually did started my work today. But I mean, somedays I do that...I just don't want to psyche myself out if I'm expecting too much. Or pscyhe myself in if I actually might not be experiencing what I should.

Which agency has the Corona virus test kits account? Any rumblings of which client is working on a vaccine?

Entering my 2nd year as a medical malpractice (insurance) defense litigator. My billables are 2200 per year, even during WFH and COVID while the courts are moving very slowly. Any advice as to what I should look into for an exit? I can’t hit those billables while maintaining my sanity.

We were not trying to conceive. And I was drinking alcohol like twice a week.
Now I missed my period and pregnant. I am panicking a lot, not sure if I want a baby right now. Definitely i cant deal with pregnancy constantly knowing how much u drinking could have affected the fetus and if i could ever endure the consequences it would bring upon the baby
Help me understand if my baby will be fine or not.

How do you find time to take breaks throughout the day and fight the urge to work through lunch?

My manager micro manages everything I do, and I’m losing my mind. Wanted to see how any of you have handled a manager like this, and get some advice on how to tell them to literally stop.

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

All my office has done about C19 is check everyone has Slack on their computer, just in case things get worse. Should I worry? Or is this normal for the UK right now?

Have had a couple of patients that have positive covid antibodies but their spouses don't. Please explain

I had an interview last week and waiting is raising my anxiety. I am on anxiety medications and it doesn’t seem to help. I don’t know why I am getting anxious as I already know I can not control the

Would anyone be interesting in referring a friend of mine to their firm? He is a Nigerian-American who just got back from doing his mandatory year of work for the Nigerian govt and is having a cont...

How do you deal with a manager / junior partner who is always nitpicking and questioning why you did what you did, or telling you what you did is the wrong way to do things? It’s generally prefaced with them only doing this to help you grow, but has the exact opposite effect on me. And then when you try to explain your POV, you’re tagged as being defensive. Generally ends me with saying I’m sorry. No other partners at the firm have ever raised any concerns on my communications or work product.

Do industry professionals involved in M&A sign to close and integration work long hours too or do they peace out at 6

Hi. I was made redundant from Zendesk in August and looking for my next role. Im looking for a Senior Recruiter or Lead Recruiter role in Dublin Ireland. The market seems difficult for inhouse roles. Anyone looking for someone with my skillset?

At what point in my career as a receptionist should I consider asking for a raise? After one year? After five?

The normalization of "on hold" by the usual suspects. Had 6 interviews in past 4 months with D_itte Get the verbal offer from HR. Yay. Fast forward to following Monday. Get thanked for my complimentary followup sent post-final interview. 48hrs later, same recruiter (on speakerphone) tells me job is now hold and "you must be upset" and good luck in your search.

Tacky AF. Tell me I was rejected by the shadowy 5-person board or it was given to someone who wanted less. Just not this b.s.

What are some feasible exits to the investment industry? PE seems to be too hard. Currently at Strategy& Deals Strategy and will leave at the 3YOE mark

Need help in preparing for Meta. Any help from people who are already a part of the organisation or who has given an intrrview is appreciated. Thanks.

Hello, after doing some research I believe I’m being underpaid. About 4 months ago HR did a market analysis for my role. They bumped my salary for about $2k. I’m a mid-level Executive assistant with 6 years of experience and currently supporting 5 executives at a fortune 50 company. One C level and 4 Vice Presidents. I’m currently making $61,000 with bonus included. Based on my research I should at least be making $71,400. I have a check in with my boss tomorrow and I am asking for a raise.

Does anyone have some insight on Lipman Hearne or Ledger Bennett? Both have poor reviews on Glassdoor, but I see they have copywriter roles open. Is the culture toxic?

Can someone recommend some marketing and design blogs? I am working on a project and my creative juices just aren't flowing.

Hi does schneider Electric layoff people.. How is job security?

What’s the fastest WI-FI provider in Austin? I have Spectrum abs it’s not fast enough for my house of 5

Wednesday 3/14 FYI Island Visit thread

Comment in the below format if you want visitors or are looking to visit an island.

In light of everything that is going on, I would like to quote a simple yet powerful line from Prophet Mohammad (SAW) last sermon, in which he (SAW) says:

“A white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over a white – except by piety and good action.”

Hi All,

I’m looking for brands and interesting campaigns that communicate and showcase transparency, trust and openness.

Ideally any interesting integrated comms that came out of it?

Thank you!

Hi All, Anyone moved from GBS to CIO BU ?
If yes, what is the advantages and disadvantages for this.

Hi fishes, how can I keep a track of my leaves? How many I have applied, how many are left etc? Please paste the path here, thanks.

Hi Fishes, does anyone have an idea how long TCS takes to provide the confirmation letter after 3 months of probation? I expect mine on Nov 24th, till what date may I expect the confirmation letter please?

Would you recommend the CVS test? I dont think I want to get it done due to the risks.

Why do things escalate so quickly at the end of my shift? Ugh - I feel like this is the Murphy's law of medicine.

If I had a dollar for every time my boss screamed “UGH C’MON” at his computer... It’d be enough to buy myself the medical coverage my company doesn’t provide. 🙃

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

Having one of the worst weeks of my life but my bosses would flip if I used a personal day. Meanwhile in the office I’m getting bitchy emails and attitude per usual. How does one deal / stay sane?

Getting bullied by people way above my pay grade. Ended up working under a boss from an old shop who didn't like me then either. I have a gut feeling they trying to fire me or ruin me. What do I do?

Anyone else feeling particularly out of whack the pst week or2 ? I feel out of touch and out of control; inspired but unmotivated, drinking and smoking a lot of pot ; anxious but not worried, insomnia

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Your secret weapon to deal with stress at the office?

Have been having really stressful and vivid dreams since quarantine started. A few dreams have even been insanely disturbing. I’m on Zoloft & Wellbutrin. Therapist thinks it’s not related to the meds. Anyone else experience this and got through it? CONT’D

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

Does anyone have a good psychologist/counselor recommendation in NYC? One that accepts United and doesn’t charge $130 “for the first six sessions”? I just want someone I can pay $35 weekly.

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

Who is bipolar and/or has major depression and/or has anxiety and/or is/has anything else? Who has been in a mental hospital? Who has been to rehab? Who sees a therapist? Who sees a psychiatrist? ...

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

I take immense comfort in knowing that chances are, I cross paths with some of you daily. Does anyone else notice this? It’s fascinating.

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

Anyone else dealing with anxiety around the uncertainty of continued remote work? We were so dysfunctional and unproductive in the office, the thought of going back is giving me nightmares.

I'm unemployed and my lease is up soon and I have no idea what to do. I don't live near family and my dog has behavioral issues and I've never been so stressed before in my life.

Maybe this sounds privileged.. or plain dumb... I just got back from a really fun vacation and I’m sad! Guess i got the “back to real life” blues. How do I get back to my happy self!??

Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?

I’ve gotten to the final stage in interview process at 5 places now to be told no. First and second interviews at a bunch of other places too. Starting to really feel drained. So much work for nothing