How do you deal with a manager / junior partner who is always nitpicking and questioning why you did what you did, or telling you what you did is the wrong way to do things? It’s generally prefaced with them only doing this to help you grow, but has the exact opposite effect on me. And then when you try to explain your POV, you’re tagged as being defensive. Generally ends me with saying I’m sorry. No other partners at the firm have ever raised any concerns on my communications or work product.

What's a guilty pleasure you indulge in at work?

Have you tried encouraging cards highlighting their strengths? When’s the last time you said “Thank you” out loud to everyone in front of everyone? Bought lunch? Participated in a team building event? Encourage a team atmosphere and keep the lines of communication open. Just my thoughts

I work on a team that is 95% H1b (it’s really just me and 1 other on a team that’s 20+). The client has a few topics that are restricted to US citizens on US soil only. There’s a few team members that are visibly (not recently because it’s virtual) upset when asked to leave the room for these discussions to take place. Why would they get so offended?

I have a huge crush on my mentor which is why I started this bowl. Curious if anyone else has had any experience with this?.. I’m a young female and he’s about 10 years older.

Over the past year, my counsel is constantly judged by a select few senior business folks (eg arguing over FTC compliance, IP risk counsel, and even simple things regarding NDAs that any attorney wouldn’t question. It’s very frustrating that my own team is the one I have to defend my logic to (and not opposing counsel). It feels like they want a rubber stamper, which is not me.I never faced this at my prior in-house roles (probably because they were much a larger). Any advice on how to handle?

How do you 100% utilized folks try to network with other folks in at the firm if you’re always at client site? Trying to get some face time with them

Building out a new function at my company, top 15 bank in the US, and scheduled a 90 minute meeting last week for today. Invite included an agenda and a teams link to the document we would be reviewing. Also asked for attendees to review ahead. 20 minutes in, my co-worker exclaims while I’m mi-sentence we should meet Thurs. after having a chance to review content… WHAT?! What should I have done in that situation?

I’ve accepted I suck at work. And I don’t know what people get from humiliating or criticizing you to the point you think you are worthless.

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

What do I do if I’ve only worked one job (the one I’m currently at) and another company is asking for references? I could do professors from college but not sure if that’s a good idea. I wish I could give my current manager’s contact but I don’t want her knowing :/

How did you give notice you were lateraling to people you like? Particularly if you haven't been there that long?

I'm lateraling to another firm because frankly I think the management of this one is terrible, but the people (and individual partners) I actually work with are awesome. I've only been here for about 18 months, so I imagine that short time frame will make it extra awkward 😬

How do you feel about leaving a company shortly after joining?

I've been told by people to not be loyal to companies & I've seen posts in forums where people have talked about leaving workplace 1, at workplace 2 for like 3 weeks, and already interviewing for workplace 3 (and the recruiter for workplace 3 doesn't even know that the person has left workplace 1). That feels a little disingenuous and...bad etiquette maybe? What do you think?

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

Can’t tell if I’m developing crushes on my coworkers only because they’re the only people I interact with (on zoom) in quarantine 😬

What are effective ways to ensure your team feels content within the workplace? There is a rise of many people feeling undervalued and not cared for as an employee. I would like to change that. No matter the job, no one should feel less than.

I've been almost 3 years in my previous company and never have I ever tasted any raise from them. I got transferred to different accounts and LOB it was so exhausting and finally when I decided to leave and send my resignation my Supervisor be like "you know you should be thankful of your job" To be honest the job was very stressful and supervisor at some point is somehow toxic but thankful I get to take my leave.

Any tips on how to navigate colleagues and clients that talk over you? I struggle with speaking up esp when I get interrupted or my comments get ignored then reiterated by someone else.

I’m giving my notice on Monday. I’m looking for advice on:
- Checklist of things to do, both before Monday and within next 2 weeks
- Tips on convo informing Counselor / Manager
- Anything else that’s good to know / not well known

Is there any not very expensive black tie gown shops near Toronto downtown? New to the city and office party has black tie dress code!

Hello, I recently was reached out to by an in-house recruiter at a similar but slightly different company than the one I currently work for. The recruiter provided a base range and an OTE range. The lower end of that range is what I am currently making. The higher end of that range is almost 200k more than my current comp. The role is almost identical. I wasn’t looking to move, but that higher end range would set my family up very nicely for our goals. But I am happy at my current company. Help?

Does anyone know salary estimates for an Associate role at Norwest Venture Partners?

Those who moved nyc to nj- assm min change in rent, how much did you save on an avg cause of taxes etc.?

Did you feel “ready” the first time you managed a team? Or insecure?

If I say same thing to her mom, whatever she said to my mom.
How do I dare to talk her mom like that, I was like wtf.

I hate being an attorney. How do I get out.

Today’s my bday. Also my beloved family dog is getting put to sleep due to cancer. I didn’t take the day off today for either reasons. Do I have my priorities messed up right now?

Left b4 consulting for f500 industry (pharma). Much of what was promised was blatantly false or hasn’t panned out. However, the pay (around 300k) and WLB are real. And work is somewhat interesting - just isn’t what i signed up for, moves at a glacial pace and i have doubts about the potential of much of what my team is doing.

Am i crazy for considering returning to consulting like MBB in an M level role? In low 30s now and we have a very young child. Please roast me if i need to hear it. TIA!

Hey ppl Need a suggestion. Ik this is out of topic but can you please suggest me a phone under 30k-40k Planning to buy in Samsung, OnePlus or Google pixel (please suggest the best)
TIA

My fried work in Infosys.
His manager asked for his interest for H1B visa nomination. What does that mean?
Will he get the opportunity to go outside India.?

can someone refer me in accenture for role of manual/ automation tester.

YOE: 2.8 years
NP: 3months

thanks

Hi Fishes,

I am going to start as a Big data Developer. I have an experience of 3 years in non-IT MNCs and current CTC is 5 lpa for me. What is the salary I should expect as my earlier experience is not relevant to the field. Please help.

Hi folks,
How much Wipro pays for Europe on-site role with B3 designation.

Daily filling Timesheet even on bench.. bad process. it shall be weekly or monthly..

How is the client Yahoo Supply? I got a proposal and any review would be helpful.

Hi,

can someone highlight as how much we can expect for band 8 with 14.6 yrs exp as a security professional.

Hi boys & girls!

Joined a big firm (Big4) not long a go and starting to feel like I got a good grip on my current work.

I've always been very technical, so I think that the only thing I am missing now is making sales. (I really wanna make partner)

Can any seasoned lawyer share tips and materials (i.e. books) which can help?

Would it be a good idea to join a Social Club where potential clients spend time? (gym/tennis/paddel/events)

Any advice welcome!

I’m a first year associate and perpetually concerned I’m going to get fired bc I feel like my work product isn’t at the level it should be. Does anyone have an idea of how easy/ hard it is to get fired?

How do you justify a $100k pay cut to go in house?

I’m an associate in a busy bankruptcy group (just started after a clerkship) and I’ve started to have to to turn down work because I’m too busy (I don’t tell partners no, but say something along the lines of “I don’t think I’d be able to start on that for a day or two”). How much is too much for saying no to work? This week I’ve been billing like 10hrs a day and worked late 3 nights

Insight on Kirkland & Ellis?

How long of a commute would you consider to be too long? First year associate trying to balance convenience with living more frugally to save up some more money.

Is an offer after only a first screener a red flag?

Stub year in a free market firm frustrated about hours. Everyone was complaining about being slow last month, but it seems most passed 100 hours and I only got 60. I’ve been doing everything mgmt says to do but I’m making no progress in getting work. I can’t help but think I don’t fit in here and people don’t like me - especially because I went to a lower-ranked school, grew up poor, and am neurodivergent so networking is hard for me. Whole system feels very nepotistic. I just want to give up.

Obviously many of us get paid very well and there is an expectation with work demands for being paid that high. But what’s too much? How do you set a limit to preserve your mental health? I find myself guilty for taking time to decompress but I know I come back to work refocused after I do it.

How did you give notice you were lateraling to people you like? Particularly if you haven't been there that long?

I'm lateraling to another firm because frankly I think the management of this one is terrible, but the people (and individual partners) I actually work with are awesome. I've only been here for about 18 months, so I imagine that short time frame will make it extra awkward 😬

How much are 3-5 yr associates making in big law in Denver? I’m a female and one of my male colleagues told me he makes $10k more than me and we received the same score on our annual review

Hours check anyone? I’m at 1400 to date with pro bono. 2000 target. On track but September is looking slowwwww

Difficult and personal question.

Worked in big law since this summer. Feedback is that my legal writing is first class, but that I’m severely sub standard when it comes to aptitude for work as a lawyer with paying clients.

I feel terrible, no self confidence and want to get out. Any alternative career suggestions?

Dudes who initial your shirt cuffs: why? I’m new to the fancy world of big law and I’m genuinely curious. Is there some subculture of people that are impressed by this? Do you have trouble remembering your initials?

Working on some law firm applications tonight and it sucks that I know that I am so capable and have a strong work ethic but firms can’t see beyond grades or the fact that I didn’t go to a t14 law school or prestigious undergrad. I’ve worked twice as hard and feel like I’ve barely even gotten half as much. It’s discouraging sometimes especially because I worked so hard with pretty much no guidance (first gen, poc, low-income) to get into college and do well and then get into a t30 law school

How hard/easy would it be to find a decent big law position after 3 years of SEC experience? Total 5 years atty experience. What will be the salary like?

Any group still busy heading into the new year? Been dead for months and still dead. Real estate — V30

I’m a second year associate and last night I was online until 2:30 AM waiting for one specialists comment to a purchase agreement. I had added all comments during the day from everyone else, and the midlevel and senior were online as well, but it seemed very strange to ask me to stay up just to add three sentences to a purchase agreement. Is this normal?

Thoughts on rep/culture at Wilmerhale (NY) v. Allen & Overy (NY)?

What are people’s experiences with SSRIs/did they help you with work?