How do I politely decline a friend asking to stay at my place for the Christmas week? I’m not even gonna be at the apartment and I don’t feel comfortable just letting them stay 🤦‍♀️

How to FIRE with kids? No kids for us yet but wife and I do FIRE and we’re wondering if it’s even possible with kids. Just takes longer maybe?

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

sigh* last week Saturday my s/o & I broke up after our 3 year relationship. & it really been affecting me negatively — not eating, autopilot mode, self isolation & diving deep into work. Today I decided to go outside, where I picked up some food to go and went to an outdoor movie by myself; where I had the realization I just really enjoy being by myself. Idk, maybe I’m just better off single after so many failed relationships/am I being dramatic? but anyone else has given up on love?

I can’t get over how meaningless my life is. I feel stuck in a dark tunnel with no light at the end. I don’t know what I’m doing in life. It’s overwhelming and makes me cry over every little thing. Is it too much to ask for me to just be happy in life? I’m 26 but I feel like this is all life has to offer.

What to do when parents dig their toes into your relationship? They don't approve of who I'm with and very vocal about it.

In 10 years, this may be in the rear view or they may not let up. Anyone with experience in this?

My boyfriend is in love with me after 9 months of dating and I don’t feel the same. I like him, but I dont get excited when I’m going to see him. I don’t know what’s wrong or what changed for me.. what do I do

I work with a classroom of Middle School ED students. One student, who I worked with the year before, has changed alot over the year. Last year (pre COVID), she had a good head on her shoulders and I thought I had good rapor with her. But over that period of isolation, she tried to commit suicide.

All year, she was much more withdrawn and ALWAYS on her phone! At the end of the I was 'beat up by her - she really knocked my glasses off.

How should I approach her in the upcoming year?

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

Moms ❤ : anyone with super supportive mothers who've helped pave the way for you? Please share with other 🐠s your most inspired stories.

Stupid question but getting a divorce now and having a hard time figuring out what to do with sentimental things such as wedding pictures, travel pics, ornaments we bought together, etc. What did you do? Relationship was over 12 years and don’t know what to do. Should I jus pretend that those 12 years never happened or she was not there?

Divorce is amicable and based on growing apart rather than bc of cheating or fighting or anything else..

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Any female lawyer who has a baby in their first year in BL? How was the experience pre and after the baby?

Hi! Looking for insight. My fiancée is currently in the US on an F1 Student Visa. We plan on getting married in Dec 2022, before he graduates in May 2023. Is it better to get our marriage certification in the US and have our ceremonies in our home country? Or does it not matter?

Has anyone found roles in Big 4 or industry that allowed more work life balance when their kids were young without damaging future career trajectory? I'm a partner with young kids and feel like I'm missing out on too much of their lives. Wishful, but my dream job would have a lighter workload in terms of time and pressure for the next ~5 years, but not set me back too much (or at all) when the kids are older and tired of me in a few years and I'm ready to be back at work full force.

So here is my dilemma:
- based in the UK
- opportunity for lateral internal move (culture&engagement) or stay where I am (reward). I am mid level IC struggling to progress due to flat structure so considering lateral move then hopefully up from there.
- 2 primary aged children, currently have flexibility in current/new role too
- Husband just got accepted on a international rotation which means I will be single parent for the short term.

What to do? Go with the unknown or coast comfortably?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Just lost out on two potential clients because they said they were concerned about how many clients I have. Currently have approx 250 households ( Ed Jones speak for mailing groups). I never thought that was a lot but now I am reevaluating. Curious as to how many relationships you all manage.

Does anyone have experience breaking up w a therapist? I've been seeing my therapist for 5+ years for eating disorder treatment and we've been through so much together, but I don't think she's able to help me anymore. While I've stopped my ED behaviors, they've evolved into OCD, and I'm finding that her methods might be making it worse. I think I want to try an OCD expert instead. But I don't know how to end the relationship. Do I just stop going? Do I explain myself? I don't know what to do 🥺

Let's talk salary.

I'm up for a raise soon and I'm at 43,000 a year. Anyone have any advice on what I should ask for?

Hi Fishes

I have one doubt i have 9+ year experience in Mainframe
Now i want to switch to Big Data (Doing some online course)


Is it possible to switch to big data from mainframe
Also how to say in interview rwgarding mainframe and big data


Kindly guide advise please please

Thinking of switching over from law to consulting. How to approach this endeavor and what are the appropriate measures to take? Thx.

Best consulting firms to work for in Hartford CT area?

Hello fishes,
I have one year of experience in PV.
Any vacancy in PV?

At what point do you disconnect from Slack? Do you feel guilty if you take the night off completely?

Anyone familiar with Chime salaries?

I’ve been approved for a transfer to the AUS office. Early 30s couple, no kids, small dog. Wife will work for the state but doesn’t have an office assigned yet. Looking for a SFH (that isn’t soullessly modern) in the 600-700k range that will suit our interests: walk to a grocery store, maybe a restaurant or two, commute to work in <30 min. Where should we look?

Hi fishes,
Any jobs Mining industries, supply chain management and purchase. I have 12 years experience in this domain.

What's going on with polka dot? And does anyone know what I need to do if I have some?

What sort of opportunities are available in Canadian government for commercial insurance professionals?

Was that aggressive political campaign for Hilary a scheduled/scripted portion of the townhall? LOL

Elon said an economic recession is probably coming in 2022, what do you think?

Just a joke, take it as a joke-
.
Recently Better (dot) com's employees were fired from the job.
If you are some HR/Senior management personnel and hiring them.
You should reconsider your decision as they will make your organisation BETTER. :-)

What is on job security for senior engineer in HTC global services if you are new joiner and on bench since 2 months ?

Any update on work from office in TCS? Are they still calling ? As no. of cases are increasing

Hi Fishes, how much does the post-graduation college matter while applying for Bain & Co.? when one has the relevant experience, skills, and certifications mentioned in JD. Also, any leads on referrals would help.

Got PMO job offer from The Body Shop Company. Hike is what I have asked for, should I join the company? Any thoughts or experience around the company?

Hi ,

my HR interview is over in TCS and they have shared salary breakdown for me.I have acknowledged the mail positively but haven't received any information from them .How many days it will take to respond back .whom should I contact now?Please help

Are there actually tax cuts switching from home office in NYC to Hoboken?

If anyone is moving back to the city/looking for a new lease in late July/August 1 and needs a roommate, please DM!

Has anyone used kaiyo for selling furniture? Have a west elm couch i want to get rid off

Anyone commute on PATH from NYC to Jersey City or the other way around? What part of either city do you live and where's work, how long is your commute, and do you feel like your commute is practical with what you're getting in return, or do you wish you lived closer to work?

Posted about this a while back but didn’t get a definitive response. I have a bunch of Manhattan prep GMAT books from the past few years that have little to no writing in them. There’s probably 20 of them so pretty heavy but I’m looking to give this away to someone for free. Only thing is I asked for you to take all of them versus just a few. I live in downtown Manhattan near the stock exchange and hoping to give by the 24th. Thanks!

I’ll be a student again so no income and no guarantors that meet income requirement. How do I secure housing? Do landlords take full payment on the lease? Any places that don’t have income verification?

Good gyms (besides equinox) that aren’t crowded/small?
Debating between Blink or Crunch, any preferences?

Looking for freelance writing opportunities for small businesses or bloggers who need additional support. I currently work in healthcare PR and have extensive experience with ghost writing for senior executive teams on a wide range of topics including healthcare and business. Will send examples of work if anyone is interested.

Vaccine mandate for all Private Employees in NYC starting Dec 27th

Hi, anyone successfully subletting their apartment (TF Cornerstone)? Would love to know how you went about it. Thank you in advance.

Came home after a few months away to realize I've been holding onto a shithole apartment. Looking for a broker recommendation because streeteasy is not a great resource if everyone is on it.

I’ve decided I cannot afford rent in lower Manhattan anymore. Been here for 6 years and make more each year but this is just crazy now. My 2 bed 1 bath went from 5200 to 6800. Bruh that’s just insane

Alight NYC peeps, you have opinions and I want them! I’m relocating to NYC sometime between end of 2022 and early 2023 (my company is being super flexible on timing of relocation). What tips do you have for me about finding a place and where should I live?! I’m looking for specific buildings, location, the best time to move to get a deal, etc

Best places to shop for dresses to wear to summer weddings?

Anybody get a hair transplant in nyc and could recommend their doctor? Also would you recommend the procedure and going through the process (i.e., FUE vs FUT vs Bald)?

Also what was the recovery like? Nervous to look even worse as it grows back coming into the office. How much PTO did you take?

Asking for a friend ofc!

Anyone had any luck recently landing a place under $3k?

Consultant making 75K. Can’t really save much after 401K and $1300 rent. Should I have more left over every month than I do? Almost $0 right jow

NYC for worktrip. What are the best restaurants in west village for fine dining / raw bar or lobster at the moment?

Anyone’s con Ed bill extraordinarily high this month? Mine is ~$400. I’ve gotten mail notice from con Ed needing to install a “smart meter” and for every month missed it’s a $100 fee. But I think they’re waiving the fees. It’s so damn confusing to read if the high bill is due to missing the smart meter installation or energy usage.