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People like that are just idiots. Unless the person is completely medicine free, including no flu or Covid shots. They are doing the same thing. Not everybody is as brilliant as people with ADHD. I would watch that relative no doubt he is medicating somewhere either with alcohol, tobacco or even a second helping of dessert.
Dude is ignorant. Be strong. Be confident. The haters are those that are stuck. You are moving forward and growing.
So if I have high blood pressure I shouldn’t take an anti hypertensive, if I’m diabetic I shouldn’t take insulin, if I have cancer I shouldn’t have chemo or radiation???
I follow the guidance of my doctor just like everyone else does and gets proper treatment for a chronic condition.
Your cranial-recto impaction is affecting your judgement.
“That’s a weird thing to say out loud.”
“Okay.”
“Clearly not well enough since you’re still under my skin.”
If I had a better memory, I would keep "That’s a weird thing to say out loud," in my arsenal forever!
My son was the first to be diagnosed. After a year of behavioral therapy and other things, I decided to try medication. NO ONE in my family was supportive of my decision. Not even his therapist. I proceeded because what we were doing was not working and I felt it was hurting him in the end.
I gave him the medication on a Sunday just to see how it would affect him. My mother was staring daggers at me. I turned so he did not see me crying. Within 20 min, he was sitting, reading a book. So calm. So peaceful. This was a kid that could not be still for 30 seconds.
He started getting his class work and home work done before school was dismissed. He had fewer melt downs. His grades went way up. He was happier.
Even his therapist said that the turn around changed his mind about medication.
I say all that to say, nevermind what people think or say. They do not understand the impact ADHD has on our lives and how, for some of us, medication truly helps us function in a world that was not set up for how our brains work.
- BTW, I was 2nd to be diagnosed and my daughter was 3rd.
"No" is a complete sentence and tbh, you arent actually required to respond or engage in the conversation.
Neurotypical people do the same to people who suffer from other psychological conditions.
You should be proud of yourself for:
- Recognizing that you had exhausted all other support options
- Then seeking help and getting it.
- Actually using the help
- Improving your quality of life.
- Increasing your self-esteem
- Taking care of your well-being
Commentary/discussions about your medical aids falls into the same category as your finances, your religious beliefs, and politics. It is none of there dang business!
If they arent providing tangible, vetted solutions/support...they are part of the problem.
You are making the HEALTH decisions that are BEST FOR YOU, never apologize/defend that💜
Oh don’t you wish you had some snarky comebacks for that one?
“Aren’t you just relying on ozempic to get you through dessert?”
Or be straightforward, like “yes, they work really well”.
Your relative is naive.
I have never dealt with this personally but I think snark is the best way to deal with most things like this.
“Is your next stop to tell [Aunt Mary] she is too reliant on her glasses or [Cousin Joe] to tell him he is too reliant on his insulin?”
I think the glasses is a great comparison. This is exactly (well, figuratively) what the meds do for us: help us see our surroundings more clearly and focus on the right things. And you wouldn’t tell a near-sighted person they should just try harder to see without their glasses.
"Before medication, I didn't have X, Y, Z. Now that I have been working with a medical provider regarding my disorder, I have been able to accomplish A, B, C. You tell me, does it look like I'm using them to just skate by in life? Or is it possible that they are helping?"
Honestly, I wouldve been a lot more snarky than that. I also have an arsenal ready from additude.com with fact based evidence if they decide they want to play that game. However, it took me 6 providers just to be tested because I'm a female so I must be bipolar lmao. So I literally had to compile evidence.
Ugh… yes. Someone that I know loves me sincerely can’t stop comparing my meds to street drugs of the “old days” and projecting their youthful abuse of diet pills to my extremely different situation. I believe this person still struggles with understanding and respecting my diagnosis. It is not malicious. But people that have known each other for a long time (family in particular) have a hard time letting go of a dynamic that worked for them…and somewhat defined their views of themselves as well. You’re doing better and it can challenge their views. It’s most likely their own problem. But I agree that it can hurt.
All you need to ask them is "Do you take meds when you're sick?".
There's no difference between taking over the counter allergy meds or cold meds and taking ADHD medication to get through the day.
Be firm and confident about it. You just said it: they’ve truly changed your life. If it’s just a relative you don’t see or care about too much about, i would let it go if they don’t care to understand. Too many ignorant people. If it’s someone you do care about, be direct about saying that you don’t like those comments, that it hurts and go on about how good it has been for you, how they should respect your choice. I actually had to do this to my partner, when he asked multiple times if I had taken my meds when I’ve been irritable, moody, etc. I told him that it hurt, that it’s so easy to blame medication when it is usually other larger things, like if it’s also partially his fault.
im not sure what to read into that comment. asking for clarification might be enough.