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It’s not you, it’s the interviewer who needs to sound more professional 🙃
Agree with this. Sounds like it’s the interviewer that’s very odd.
Pro
Do you upspeak? https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tqNhEzrWQpY
Replace “was like” with “said.” Also, call people out if they call you “sweety.” That’s wildly inappropriate.
"Was like" definitely will make you sound young, independent of gender
The “upspeak” as noted above is a huge issue in professional communication today. Unless you are talking to someone who is simply sexist, in which case you don’t want to work for someone like that anyway, voice tone has nothing to do with it. It’s all about professional confidence. If you, even without thinking, use “you know”, or “like”, or “um”, or make a statement that sounds like a question in order to seek some sort of validation, then it comes off as uncertain and will work against you. I’m a man and admittedly have never faced this unfair challenge, but I have mentored two junior female co-workers on this exact point, both of whom have since been promoted because they were better able to demonstrate the capabilities and accomplishments they already had.
I should clarify that the “upspeak” issue has nothing to do with gender, just that it heavily contributes to more senior executives not taking the speaker as seriously. Sorry I left that vague in my previous response.
I have a naturally high pitch voice that I make a point to bring down in professional situations. I did toastmasters for a while, which helped me with a presentation voice. Actually I think the biggest thing though was just working with men for years and realizing that I’m taken more seriously when I lower my voice. Just having it in the back of my mind let me do it without feeling like it was much of an adjustment.
Chief
Get a voice coach. Makes a huge difference. I did a 1 hour session years ago and learned so much. Even listening to senior partners in board meetings - it’s totally different. Slower. More measured. More power. Less tonal range. No filler words. Extremely concise.
Singer here -- have taken many a voice lesson over the years (for singing, not speaking) and wanted to recommend the National Association of Teachers of Singing (NATS) website to find someone. Voice teachers understand how to use voices period, not just how to sing. You'd be surprised at the number of teachers who have experience teaching corporate professionals how to effectively and healthily use their voices in the workplace.
Since anyone can technically hang a sign on their door and call themselves a voice teacher, NATS helps you vet that someone is "legit." Here's the website where you can search for a teacher in your area (and with COVID, many are probably doing virtual lessons, so you aren't limited to only those in your area) -- I would just reach out to a few folks, explain what you're looking for, and ask about their experiences:
https://www.nats.org/cgi/page.cgi/find_teacher.html
I’m a woman and have a feminine voice, it really frustrates me that I have to change the way I speak and it’s blatant sexism. I was told by an interviewer that I will never be taken seriously if I don’t change my voice.
I hope you never change that beautiful voice of yours that I haven’t actually heard, but can still guarantee 1,000% is absolute perfection. Ridiculous this is still even a “thing” these days. Accountability & action falls on those perpetuating these prehistoric misogynistic convictions to: flip the scripts & help drive positive change. Or at least do the bare minimum of not instilling those same principles in the next generation. Le sigh!
I would have stopped him right there and said I no longer want the job if women are referred to as sweetie.
Rising Star
Go Margaret Thatcher on their asses.
Do you use vocal fry? Regardless of gender, I imagine that’s a massive pet peeve for a lot of people on here, including myself
Seconded. Look this up, I wasn't even aware I was doing it
You can get voice lessons if it bothers you, listen to the lady from Thernos she changed it
Um wut? As a female who has predominantly worked in male-dominated industries, that is definitely not the move to successfully deal with misogyny. Also Theranos...and she is not someone we should aspire to be ever. Male, female, canine, feline, alien, or other.