How would you handle a client that went to her exs houses in the middle of divorce proceedings drunk at 2:00 am to start a fight?

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I had this happen with a past client of mine with a past and documented history of substance abuse. She did this twice during proceedings before the Temporary Orders hearing, in fact, and her husband filed for an emergency TRO/called the police on her both times. I eventually WD but I believe it lead to criminal charges for one of these events. It got very messy very quick.. If you’re not going to WD, then I’d suggest a very stern and clear CYA letter to her in the event that what happened in my case happens in yours, and I ditto what the others said about having her voluntarily enroll in therapy or something as a subsequent remedial measure.

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Yes and additionally, tell your client she needs to get involved with therapy to have a healthy outlet for her feelings. If this comes up in court, then you can proactively address it by saying she was overwhelmed by the difficulty of the divorce and has engaged with therapeutic services so it doesn’t occur again.

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Tell them not to do it again. I wouldn’t necessarily withdrawal without other issues going on but definitely say if this behavior continues, I can’t continue to represent you if you’re uncomfortable with it

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