I am the lead on a new project, but l've noticed that my manager often 'forgets' to include me in key meetings. When I ask about it, they just brush it off and say it was an oversight. If it happens again, what should I do? If you've experienced difficulties with a manager, let me know how you handled it in the comments.
I want to be firm in that I need to be involved but not so much as to rub them the wrong way and ruin what I have spent time building between myself and them.

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I’m going to give you the worst advice but something like this is what would push me to update my resume and interview elsewhere. But it depends to what your relationship is like with your manager, you could approach them and just be frank about how you feel. Corporate America is a weird rat race where so many people just want credit to move up, it is how it is.

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If this happens again, I’d try asking for clarification on your role in the decision-making process and why you’re not being included. Approach it as wanting to contribute more effectively, rather than pointing fingers. Hopefully, it opens up a productive conversation and doesn't end up just making things worse for you but only you know how your manager will respond so I'd choose your approach based on what you know about your manager's communication style

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That's an odd situation, usually someone in that position winds up in too many meetings. You just have to give your manager some reminders that you need to be present. Just find a graceful way to do it, don't be confrontational and don't question their motives. It's possible they're just not thinking and forgot. But if you think they're playing some weird game, indicate, with whatever subtlety you can manage, that you're on to their nonsense. That will likely end it.

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