I got into a complicated situation with a senior manager before. At the time I was new to the firm, and it was my first time in a big city. I never really said no, and didn’t know how acceptable cont

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You clearly have an emotional attachment to this toxic and abusive person/ situation— break all ties and move on. Learn the definition of “friend” and learn your rights as a worker. There are no friends at work. Learn your self worth. Make new connections and make friends outside of work.

Hopefully your really young— grow up quickly or you’ll get abused again.

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No job is worth us to sacrifice our health and mental health.

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OP this can be really hard, I went through something similar in nature but not as extreme with a manager my first year who made senior that year. He was ruthless and taught me a very important lesson, “at some, everyone’s a commodity..” meaning you don’t need to take your job that seriously and managers and above are trained to squeeze every ounce of productivity out of you. If they don’t, it’s cuz they’re nice (aka friendly, don’t get it twisted with “friends”). If they do, you allowed them to. Not saying that you should never be flexible but ask your will this piece of commodity do this for me or help me out (not as a mere commodity)? I’ve set up boundaries now and found much better bosses that have genuinely helped me get further.

Good luck OP! #HospitalsCuzOfWorkAreNotWorthIt

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OP, you tried. They didn’t respond. Stop spinning and move on. Spend that energy on yourself or people that engage with you.

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To say no to work. I ended up in the hospital for fainting, and even then I was still asked to work. At the time, I was very upset because that senior manager was not only my boss but we were really good friends so I felt that he didn’t care about my health or sanity at all.

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Shortly after the project ended, we stopped all contact. It’s been a very long time and I wanted to clear the air, so I reached out and have been ignored till now. Did I do something awkward and lame and worsened the situation? I just want to take away any negative feelings from the work environment.

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What do have to you gain by 'clearing the air' now that it's all in the past? Move on...

If you are at EY there is friend at work

OP a female?

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