I have been doing boyfriend duties without being a boyfriend to a crush. She rejected when I confessed and I am trying to move on.
She is about to move to a new place. Hasn't asked me to help yet. I have the means, and the time. If she does, should I say yes or no?

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

Any tips for traveling with a baby? Will be flying with a 4 month old in a few months. Any advice would be appreciated!

First boyfriend i’ve had during the holidays and he’s away at home. I’m so bored 🙁😞

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

People with tiny kids (baby/toddler), how are you coping/entertaining your little buggers? Ours is turning 1 very soon and we have a push trike in the mail, but thinking of inside activities too.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Anyone women lawyers here interested in a local get together? New to the area & looking to meet friends, which is hard enough as a busy attorney, and got even harder with pandemic /WFH life. I brought this up in the women lawyers bowl and there were several 🐠🐠 in the Bay area looking to connect!

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

People who have cheated in their previous relationships, how did you come to realize the reason behind your behavior? A close friend confided in me that she has cheated in all her previous relationships and struggles to understand the reasoning behind it. She feels a lot of shame and is trying to understand why she does what she does.I have suggested therapy but she is not ready yet. How did you folks arrive at the root cause behind your behavior? Advice? Book suggestions that I can pass along?

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Partners, how have you managed to balance the work, obviously substantial, and your family? I see many with stay-home SO, but wondering if it is possible to prioritize family if your SO has a demanding career

whats the pay range for risk assurance manager (Business Continuity) at PwC???

I'm working with an IT MNC in PMO profile.

Is it Bad to change Sector from 'IT' and moving into the same profile (PMO Support) but with the 'Investment Banking sector'?

Some people says once you move out from IT sector, there is no chance getting back to it. Is this really true?

Please assist, this question is eating me.

Has anyone else begun to resent data science?

Hello friend,

Any one abscond the notice period in EY.


I Just join - 3 month.

Any one can help me for same what get happened if I do same.

Thanks for you advise

How stressful is it to work in a call center? It seems to me that the supervisors would be the micromanaging sort

Does anyone know what a good escalation point would be for a D&I situation that I feel is not being handled in the right way? It seems like the situation is being swept under the rug since technically no “policies” were broken.

Bought a bunch of PS4 games at start of quarantine and never got started. Between Fallout 4, Witcher 3, Uncharted 4, and The Last of Us, where should I start?

Has anyone made the jump from one HR specialty to another? I’m trying to figure out if I’m better off trying to get experience in the new specialty internally, or if I just find a new role elsewhere. Thanks!

Hello. I am looking for new opportunities as a TPM. I came across a role at dropbox that I think would be a perfect fit. Would anyone be willing to provide me with a referral? Much appreciated!

Hi Fishes..I recently joined HCL.. and I am into a Support profile. So i would be having rotational shifts here and also there won't be much of learning. Is there any career upskill program in HCL through which I can move myself to a different domain or technology within HCL? If anyone has more information than we can Talk on teams as well..

Just venting. College friend (same ethnicity but came to US with family as a kid) told me she might get a new job offer w a smaller firm, 50% pay bump. We currently work at comparable big firms but her pay is already higher than mine (hers include stocks, mine doesn’t). We did equally well in college & I know I’m just as smart. Can’t help but feel like my career’d have been much better if I did not need sponsorship. Smaller firms don’t sponsor so I work at a big firm but pay isn’t great 🙄

I have worked with Forbes top companies, for-profits, non-profits, & startups. I consider myself a solver of complex & complicated problems requiring mixed method research & novel solutions. This has led to issues in self-referencing title. I’ve been project manager, data engineer, developer, modeler, analysts, principle DB developer, etc. Most of my w2 work has been from offers of 1099 clients so I am usually asked to define my own title. Any T-shaped data people who run into this?

Emergency question!! Sending over an invoice to a client. We are both in mass. Do I charge tax on a digital delivery? I did on my last two but now I’m questioning it. Help!

My Partner doesn’t like me personally but he needs me on his team due to my knowledge and relationships. I have an offer for 15K more than I currently make. Should I ask him to match? (B4)

Everyone in my firm try so hard to be politically correct😍feel so included.

I’m currently in internal audit and hate it. I got a job offer to joint another practice within my firm and the work itself sounds very appealing. The only major drawback is 80-100% travel. Thoughts?

I want to get a bottle of liquor from Canada that isn't sold in the US. Can't get it shipped. Anyone from PA/DE/NJ/NY going to Quebec anytime soon that would be willing to bring a bottle back?

What internet speed do u pay for to be confident you can work at home properly?

Ugh I wanted to take my son to see a UFC match in person. Just so happens there is one in November at Madison Square Garden - great right! I knew the tickets would be expensive, was willing to pay $400 to $500 a ticket as long as they were decent. The cheapest ticket in the whole arena, basically top row so you can’t see crap, is $506 before you start with the fees!!! Am I wrong or is that just bananas???? Oh well, pay per view it is, maybe have some friends over. Just complaining… happy Friday!

Reasons to stay in NYC? Kinda feel really sad living here.

How is your Valentine’s Day?

Why are boomers strolling around outside running errands? Is it time to reopen schools and fire up the economy?

Why do people not respond to calendar invites? Come on now we can do better🙃

Can I sue a company for posting my address on social media (cont’d)

What’s with the stigma against a beer or a glass of wine with lunch? Isn’t really that big of a deal.

What’s the scoop at BDO’s national training in Dallas? Anyone have anything juicy they’d like to share?

What % of your free time do you spend at home compared to outside the house? (exclude time spent at work or sleeping)

Any of you auditors have pick up lines? Matched with a hot auditor guy and want to slide in

Haven’t seen bf in over 3 months due to COVID. Lately, he’s been pushing to see me but I don’t feel comfortable because he hasn’t been quarantining. He makes it sound like if I’m not willing to go see him might as well breakup. Any advice?

How do you casually date? Recently moved to a new city I didn’t know anyone in, met 2 girls I like and have gone on a few dates with but not sure I like them enough yet to like commit. Is it wrong to go on dates with both until I figure it out? Not sure what to do, getting into relationships makes me feel trapped and unsure for some reason

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

Advice on dating someone long distance? Kinda big price tag just to see each other.

Any cat owners experience hot spots? My cat has been getting them 2-3 times a year for 2 years now and I'm worried there's an underlying cause

Any off beat documentaries to recommend? Just watched the Barkley Marathons.