I terminated a former employee for consistently missing deadlines, v. poor quality of work (basic spelling mistakes), costed me $500k in errors and subsequently called him a “bottom-tier performer” to my girlfriend. Girlfriend thinks I’m being mean and not kind by calling people that because she thinks I’m putting them down. Note: never called any other team members that because they do good work. I don’t think I’ve said anything out of line - am I in the wrong here?

Need tips for working with a super insecure coworker - needs praise, is threatened by others' ideas. Tries to be sole line of contact to partner and won't delegate. Then moans about hrs worked.

Now I'm in a client location, My manager is a good person but he told me, I should report to Lead.

Lead is a psycho. He shows hell to the team members including me.
What should I do ?

Lesson learnt:

Never tell your colleagues where you are joining beforehand.
Not all are good advisors, some will ruin your mind with their opinions.

Second year associate, started at a new firm recently and got put on a fast paced transaction. Made mistakes (drafting errors and tardiness to a call) that feel irredeemable… although no one has scolded me yet. As we move into next phase of the transaction the senior associate on the deal asked to meet 1-1 to discuss “logistics” and “my time/role” on the transaction. . .

Any advice on how to handle in the instance that I receive negative feedback during this conversation?

How to switch practice areas? I’ve been in immigration for 3 years now and need a change. How do you convince employers you’re a good fit for a role you don’t have any experience with?

My fellow ADHD professionals,
Have you told your employer about your ADHD diagnosis? If you have then how have it benefited you? If you haven’t then why do you think it was the right move not to tell? I’m contemplating if I should tell my employer or not.

Business casual or full suit for an interview with a tech company?

My boss is always making last minute changes to my schedule. Adding shifts or asking me to cover for other people. Any advice on how to handle this? I want to be a team player but the last minute changes stress me out.

What's your worse experience working in customer support?

Here's mine: I was working in the call center and I was explaining to a customer that he had used up all his credit and that's why he couldn't surf the Internet on his phone. He started to insult me for 8 minutes and, due to company policies, I could not hang up until he had finished.

Working at a company and they can’t seem to hold on to their female, black and people of color employees. I blinked and 3 of the people who were in my onboarding class were either fired or they left. For context I’ve been in company less than a year and there are people who have been in the company 25yrs. I’m thinking of cutting loose before it gets to my turn.

Honest question here-hw do I work better with Indians who come over frm India(on-site) to client?My patience with them is at an all time low since they jst dnt gt the methodology & hate owning anythng

I need a pick me up - what's the most absurd thing you've ever witnessed or heard about happening at work?

Curiosity question - I’m a naturally very chatty senior and I’ve noticed that the staff 1s who are starting remotely and living at their parents’ home (which makes a ton of sense with the remote working) that I’ve been working with seem to want to chat about both semi related work stuff and non work stuff a fair amount. If you’re a staff living at home, do you enjoy having seniors who will chat with you about random things or would you rather just get your work done and log off?

What’s worse, having your team extremely upset with you because you’re leaving or having them not even care that you’re leaving?

What do you do when when someone at the top of your firm says something bigoted and you don’t call them out immediately?

Is it unusual to have a partner midway through a small engagement hand over his partner responsibilities to a Sn Mng (not on the engagement) and force the existing Sn Mng to report to them?

This week’s topic in our staff meetings is trauma and understanding the behavior of our students. Anyone else can’t help but take it personal when students lash out? 🙋🏻‍♀️

Anyone ever hire a promising creative into their group only to have them rage quit a month later and torch teammates & managers on their way out? I lead a UX group. Gave 0 indications. Background checks were clean. Had this happen only once before—a humble, hard-working Jekyll reveals himself to be a self-important, arrogant, belligerent Hyde. Anyone else?

I'm done getting paid 1/3 of the class teacher pay and expected to teach the lessons. The other Paras in the class seem to think this is normal. I certainly don't get the same respect as the teacher. Am I alone here?

Client gets distracted driving ticket. Pros adds no ops charge but it’s not on the ticket. Issue or not? He hasn’t received a new ticket.

What can I expect in terms of comp for incoming S2 from audit to FDD? HCOL

Has anyone here moved from FDD to M&A consulting recently is willing to share their experience?

🐠 Fam - What’s a good whiteboard solution for my home office? What do you use and from where do I get it? Thanks!

An aspiring CD looking for someone to take a look at my book it’s in the earlier stages! I’d love to get any feedback.

Going to Paris with a few girl friends in Oct. I have been there before several years ago, can’t think of any memorable restaurants. Any recommendations of places that may need reservations? Thanks

Going to Colombia with a friend next month. Will be in Cartegena, Medellin and Cali for 4 days each. I am a 28 year old single male, who likes to have fun, go out and go on adventures. Any recommendations would be much appreciated :)

Anyone else not that impressed with the quality of elloqui clothing? Especially for the price ?

Exit opportunities from SALT - partnership focus? Starting to get worried that the opportunities are too slim and debating leaving for a federal position (even if at a lower title) to gain experience. Anyone have experience with this? I feel like my only options right now are the same jobs just at different cpa firms.

Is the layoff spree ended in PS? No new scapegoat opening up in last two days. Anyone affected in recent couple of days? Please speak up to make the public aware.

Very curious to know what other Technical Writers in the Midwest or Eastern side of the U.S. are earning and whether or not that drastically changes if it’s a contract role vs. full time.

Question for my 401k focused advisors out there--what programs are you using that is instrumental to your 401k practice that you simply can't do without? I'm being pitched on Envestnet & im not sold.

Which side wins the trade? Justin Jefferson, Aaron Jones and AJ Dillion for Mark Andrews, Derrick Henry, & Alvin Kamara?

I need guidance - was able to sell work through relationship. All I have is my LLC and a bank account. No infrastructure, no HR set up, no legal document. Who should I reach out to get help?

Remuneration for a project manager with a company like property developer

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

Need some advice. Ive been with my GF for 3.5 months now. I’ve caught my GF in multiple lies regarding her sexual/relationship history. When caught, her first reaction is anger at me for asking about her past too much, etc. but eventually she becomes quite sorry and apologetic. She says I shouldn’t care about her past, but I feel that it is important, and I communicate my questions as soon as they come up. I really like her, and I know I could be less curious, but the lying hurts. Thoughts?

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic

How often do you and your SO text/talk during the days you’re not together? My bf has a pretty busy job so we don’t really communicate during the day, but when it gets to be like 8pm and I haven’t heard from him at all it bothers me. Is that wrong? And how would you communicate to them that you want a bit more check-in/form of communication without coming off as needy

How often do you have sex? How long have you been together? I’m lucky if I get it 1x a week and I’m getting frustrated.

How do u keep communication in a relationship if one person is emotional & other isn't (ex check-ins, how to recover from a fight, best way to not hold a grudge if something was said out out of anger)

Boyfriend threw a bottle at my laptop screen last night. Another toxic Friday night after drinking 😞

Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

For those of you in your mid-20’s, how often do you go on dates with your significant other? In a serious relationship for the first time since college and trying to gauge what folks consider normal for dating frequency (excluding nights in). Context - we’re 25, dating for 3 months, live 5 mins away from each other, decent WLB

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

My marriage is beyond repair I think. Husband just said we keep having the same conversations over and over in the past year about things we’ve been trying to fix. Is a year enough time? 11 years together for reference. And I don’t think his statement is true - he literally mentioned one of those things last week that he was happy about. I just can’t do it with these vague statements in arguments.

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

Been dating for a little over a year, but she hasn’t introduced me to her family yet. I don’t have any plans for thanksgiving this year, and she didn’t invite me to spend the holiday with her family (local). Is it still too early or is it a red flag?

F*****-up story…please be constructive (but also open & direct)
With my wife for 14 years, 2 kids under 8y - both under a lot of pressure bc Covid/work/private life/… and have been (unconsciously) running away from our couple not working “since a long time” (dixit my wife). We want to try and fix it, but I also met someone new (not sure if she would even want me) and wondering if it’s worth fixing it (since we are trying/running/avoiding it for years) - just worried about the kids…any advice

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

Dear Men - Need your perspective.