I’m a week away from 10 months sober!

It’s been a remarkable journey— everything in my life is way better and I’m grateful that I don’t obsess about drinking all the time. Literally, all the time…

Inevitably there has been some dark moments and learning how to cope with intense feelings of shame and loneliness has only made me stronger and more optimistic about myself and my future.

I just wanted to share to the world my accomplishment because I’m a bit embarrassed to share with others! 😂

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Good job! I keep it private too but it's fun to share here (and in the rooms of AA). Keep at it!

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Congrats to you on your upcoming 10 months!!! You should be sharing it with everyone who cares about you. Only those of us who've been through the shame can understand how good you feel to have made it this far. One day at a time. Be proud!

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Congratulations! That's amazing. The first year for me was the hardest and it genuinely got easier. I'm so happy for you and it sounds like you are in a much better place.

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Yes the first few months were very tempting to say the least. I’m excited to experience years of sobriety that lay ahead!

Congratulations op, that’s amazing!!! 🎉🎉🎉 I’m almost at that point myself now and I agree my life has transformed in unimaginable ways! For the good! :) I have found that sharing multiplies the effect! Even with those not in AA!

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The longer I'm sober, the more I've come to realize that I alone didn't get nor keep myself sober. I no longer see milestones as accomplishments that I can pat myself on the back for, but ratherna gift to be grateful for. There's zero shame in sharing about the gifts I've received along the way.

I know it's a great feeling OP, keep on the path.

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This is a great perspective! At least once a week, I notice someone who experiences difficulties in their life because they drink. It helps me appreciate where I’m at in my life and that I’m less dependent on those dark desires. Thanks for sharing

Congrats! 🎊. Livin’ life on life’s terms. :)

I am so happy to hear this and good for you OP. That is something to celebrate and is a really great accomplishment.

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