I’m in an upcoming wedding and just found out the bride and groom aren’t vaccinated nor do they plan to. Do I pull out of the wedding?

Most of the invitees won’t be either I’m guessing and masks are optional. I’m vaccinated and in the bridal party but I’m really nervous with the Delta variant. I want to be supportive but she hid this from everyone until now.

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That’s tough. You will be fine but she’s holding a super spreader event intentionally. I wouldn’t go.

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Love how EY2 and EY4 both flip this on it’s head making the OP the bad person and not being a true friend. That is right out of the playbook for one side of this argument.

It is sad that there are so many people out there who think like this.

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Love the comments to end friendship based on the vaccination status.

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Lol the vaccine doesnt stop the spread of covid, and these people want to target them for bad values. Lololololol. I would be happy to end my relationship with anyone forcing a vaccine- your IQ levels would be too low for me.

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If you are vaccinated and believe it works, then your question seems petty.

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Hello everyone, just want to remind you that there’s no point arguing on this topic. Use your best judgment about whether or not to go because this conversation brings out people with low intelligence, and as a daily reminder: YOU CAN’T ARGUE WITH STUPID PEOPLE. Protect your peace.

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Did not expect this to become such a thing!
Update: asked the bride about protocols with the hair/makeup team, photographer, and mask requirements for them. No response…

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You know this is purely your moral decision, right?

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I didnt go to a wedding last year in June but that was before any vaccine. I'd go this year since I'm vaccinated.

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I’d pull out and end the friendship.

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A5 I feel bad for you

says alot about honesty and consideration for others. I wld pull out on principal alone but if you go, you are vaxxed so should be fine. Be prepared for a mask protest if you wear one anyway- especially at picture time. This sounds like a disaster of a good time

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With the delta variant you are right to be concerned and allowed to make the best decision for you.

I went to a maskless wedding in June where 96% of people were vaxxed and all was ok!

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I would drop out. The delta variant is now causing infections in vaccinated people. It used to be extremely rare, around .0006 which is so low it didn’t matter. Latest data is now over 6 percent so it now happens all the time (FV people getting it). High profile issues like the Olympic athletes, NY Yankees etc are in the news but anecdotal evidence exists everywhere. Now you probably won’t get really sick or die but do you want to take a chance like that with people who are so thoughtless they could harm you? What happens if you get the shirt straw and become a long hauler?

Easy call to make for me. I don’t hang around unvaccinated people as a general rule but especially with cases triple the last two weeks Covid is back and not going anywhere.

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So what you’re saying is the vaccine doesn’t work if people who are vaccinated are getting infected ?!

I wouldn't even be friends with these people at this point. Do you share core values with them? I got vaccinated to help those less healthy than me.

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When will yall learn that the vaccine does not prevent the spread of COVID-19?

Lots of emotive comments on this one, my take would be if you are vaccinated you will have a higher chance of being asymptomatic and therefore the unvaccinated would be more at risk from you rather than the other way round. There is also less virus mutation in standard unvaccinated people (as seen from original country data and the initial spread before any vaccination started) than in countries with vaccine as the virus has to then mutate to survive which is standard virology. Plenty who can't or don't want to take an vaccine that isn't long term tested (full lifecycle testing is usually only completed in 8 to 10 years and can't be rushed as some consequences take that long to surface.) Going to have to get on with a mix of people, let them make their own choice, the more you try to force the unwilling the more they will push back.

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1.) What do you mean hiding? I’m wondering if she just didn’t think it was something that would be an issue so she didn’t share? I encounter you (and legit everyone) to assume a little more positive intent.
If that is the case it’s your personal decision - are you going to let fear continually control your decisions and miss out on life events? Bc the reality is, the world is moving on until the next time the government decides to shut us down so might as well enjoy it while you can
2.) In the kindest way. This isn’t about you- or what anyone on this thread, including me, thinks. It’s about the happy couple celebrating their union the way they want. If you think you will in anyway detract from that, you should respectfully remove yourself. Think about what matters most to you- is it this friendship? Is it your principals? Choose and take action accordingly, but don’t ruin this poor girls day bc you think she had some malicious intent to trick you into going. Don’t forget - there is still freedom in health. Help it stay that way.

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Sure she will bow out of the wedding gracefully: I’m so sorry but you know, Covid, I’m sure you understand and want us all to be safe. Enjoy your day! Guessing the bride will not take it well but that just affirms the decision.

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I ain’t getting vaccinated lol

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Their wedding, their decision. Don’t go if you don’t want to. But really you’re vaccinated. You probably go to all kinds of places like Walmart, restaurants etc but you’re about to back out of a wedding? At some point we’re going to have to move forward and accept the reality that not everyone is going to be vaccinated

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Agreed :)

My medicine won’t work unless you take yours!

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Do not pull out of the wedding 😂. How is this even a question?

You are vaccinated. Don’t blame YOUR fears of getting DELTA on THEM when YOUR vaccine doesn’t stop the spread.

There is no difference in getting in a room full of vaccinated people versus unvaccinated people and there never has been a difference.

Please stop mixing politics and science.

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Vaccines stop the spread when enough people get the shot. Thanks to those who refuse to do so, there are new variants and now they are starting to break through. Much worse virus than before. We had a shot at stopping this and for awhile we did but of course overpowered at this point by people who refuse to do their part and spew nonsense.

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For everyone saying they wouldn’t go to the wedding because specifically the bride and groom aren’t vaccinated. What about the rest of the guests, are you going to be walking around demanding to see vaccination cards? Likely you only know a very small number of people at this wedding. It seems like you wouldn’t be in this dilemma had the bride and groom been vaccinated, but literally every single guest there could have not been
And you would have no idea. ….. just some food for thought for all those saying they wouldn’t go and drop the friendship based on this person‘s health choices

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Are birthday parties now against the rules?

Don’t go because the bride and groom sound like fools.

But there’s minimal / negligible health concerns for you if you do attend.

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The OP is vaccinated. I really don’t know what the issue is. **Don’t go if you’re that scared of a virus you are vaccinated for**

Overall, EY seems to have the worst takes on this. Mazel.

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This comment made me scroll back up to see what ey is saying. But I have to say that EY2 does have the best comment.

If you are ok with getting sick, go. If you aren’t then don’t go. Keep your judgment out of it. She’s your friend

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