I'm realizing that I drank alcohol and overate to compensate for the fact that I feel a lot different from other people and I'm very lonely. I'm getting better at resisting it but some nights I just want to eat a plate of mozzarella sticks rather than feel alone

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Awareness is the first step. Desire to change is the second. Ability to change is the third. Sounds like you have all three. A therapist who specializes in CBT would be a great resource for you. Don’t beat yourself up too much if you slip up sometimes, you’re human. Sending you positivity!

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Couldn’t have said it better. You got this OP.

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Op sending you a giant hug. There are hundreds of thousands of people who feel the same way. That’s why drinking is so prevalent.

It helped me to ask myself “what’s harder? How I’m living my life now, unhappy with my body, lonely in my apartment binge watching Netflix and eating my emotions and getting drunk? And this is how it’s going to be if I don’t make any changes to my actions”

Or “is going to the gym, making the effort to go to an event, reach out to people…and potentially feel better than I do now?” Harder?

Life doesn’t always have to be this way. I still struggle with it. But I know I feel worst and hopeless when I don’t do anything about it. It’s just small steps.

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Yeah human nature is that all occasionally slip up and have something extra I just wanted to be a minor slip-up versus like eating an entire pizza or whatever

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Loneliness is something we don't take seriously enough. It hits us all OP - and we often have coping mechanisms for it that aren't long term good decisions.

You're not alone in that. Just wanted you to know that.

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Yeah alcohol is my go-to for a while until the health consequences became unbearable. It's hard to learn new coping skills but I'm getting better. It would be nice if I developed that exercise addiction, I am susceptible to addiction already so this would be a nice Plus

Eat the mozzarella sticks! I love mozzarella sticks!

I do occasionally but only when it's responsible and I can play in the rest of my day to mitigate the damage

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I feel that. I can't have anything sweet in my apartment because I will graze when I'm high or buzzed.

I totally get that. I feel same way. If you need a friend, even just an internet friend, reach out via private message.

I’m the same :(

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