Is 20k in cash savings enough to quit a horrible, wrong fit job in this economy? Bringing me down mentally and physically )I know, join the club but it’s getting bad).

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That’s 18k more than me. Split your savings with unemployment.

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Some advice:
- look at your benefits. What is your sick leave policy? Have you taken your vacation AND sick time yet?
- look at your EAP. Are there any benefits in there that may further help you as well?
- speak with your doctor or therapist. Would you qualify for burnout, depression or another type of medical leave or medical program that would allow you to have a several week leave or lightened schedule?
- how is your partner and family? Would you qualify for FMLA if you are a caregiver?
- same for short term disability; do you have it, would you be able to qualify for leave under those provisions?
- read the tea leaves. In looking backward, has your agency done layoffs? Looking forward, do you think they will? Do you have any friends in HR or employment law who can help identify how you might be able to volunteer for a buyout package?

Exhaust these options in full FIRST... it may be that you could qualify for 1.5-4 months of leave in stacking these items together. THEN determine if you should still leave, or if you’re able to resume.

If you do leave, before you do, sit down with your bank account and bills and CUT DRAMATICALLY. get rid of memberships and automatic charges; cut your streaming memberships and bum off or split cost with a nearby friend; find a friend with a Costco membership and stock up on staples for cheaper grocery bills; etc. Do the legwork to determine how your $20k will be allocated to your bills over time; what is feasible and how much time will this give you before you need a new role?

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Oof. See if your partner’s company has an EAP And if there is free legal counsel included for a certain number of matters. Engage them to speak with you about potential options you may or may not have here?

Also see if you have any friends in HR or employment law who could provide a consult, or what it might cost to engage someone for an hour.

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I’d really try hard first to “insulate” yourself from your job. Don’t let it get to you, pull yourself away emotionally from it and any assholes aggravating you. It’s just a job and you need to foster resilience. Buy some time to look for a new role without the constant stress of knowing that you’re depleting your savings. Make small changes: go to bed 15 minutes earlier, sleep in 15 minutes more. Stretch in the morning to feel good. Cut out alcohol since it will increase your moodiness. Send a few resumes out every day. Put the job search apps on your phone for ease; try until December. I bet you can find at least an Admin job but with nice people - and then try that or look again. Sometimes we need to re-position ourselves a few times to get on a better track. If depression is an issue check out NAMI online. Unless you feel so sick you need to be hospitalized for depression/anxiety, which I hope you don’t, try using your job as a tool to get onto something better instead of your job “using” you, (depleting and demoralizing you).

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Is there anything you could do to maybe part w them in a way where you could collect unemployment as well? It’s not much but it’s something...

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Yeah, it completely depends on your circumstances. In my case, I don’t have family here, so I’d have to wait to be let go so that I could collect unemployment and use it as a buffer. If you have backup (family, etc) in case things get worse, you may be able to quit.

Thanks guys. I’ve basically removed the emotion and am doing the bare minimum. Waiting for them to take the action vs being capricious. Market out there is hard. Things seem to have calmed down a bit but I’m still quite unhappy.

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Proud of you! Starting to come back from burnout while actively in the same role that put you there is SO hard. Be really, really mindful on how you’re spending your time, and keep clawing back your off hours to redirect them into things that “fill you up” and bring you joy... don’t fall into the social media rabbit and streaming tv hole - go snuggle a pup or your partner human, take some deep breaths, make some sourdough, go hang in nature. Over time, this mindfulness helps. And 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 for taking the emotion out of it as much as possible!

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Everyone here gave really good advice. I support all of it

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