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Having a plan for the end-game. Long distance works better if you have a plan and timeline to shorten the distance - e.g. one of you works towards a transfer to be closer or the assignment that keeps you apart is temporary.
I don’t think it works indefinitely, that said, you have some time to work towards a game plan. But if you get to a year in and you don’t have a plan it can start to feel like it’s not going anywhere.
Yeah i think being transparent about what you both want in the end is huge.
If you dont know what you want yet, long distance might not be a great choice
Before getting married me and my wife did about 4 years of distance, in 2 year periods each.
1. Have a plan to bridge the gap. Having an "end" to the distance makes it bearable.
2. Plan regular visits. We would see each other at least once every 2 months.
3. Communicate often. I bought Alexa Shows so we could video chat while cooking dinner, so we had a dedicated time to talk almost every day.
Long distance seems so silly now especially since you can live anywhere with your job and travel is so complicated. Why wouldn’t you just be together?
Don’t overdo the visiting. P1 had it right with the every 2 months thing. This doesn’t need to be every week or even once a month if you have other stuff going on.
Hey! Did long distance for 4 years. Make sure your communication is great. Work to convey emotion through text rather than just information. Discuss when things are hard, more than likely your partner feels it is hard too so you both help each other get through it. Check in with each other and your relationship. Be mindful of being 1:1 with opposing sex and try not to get close to any of them. It’s not about security but your partner just doesn’t know them so it’s hard for them to be upset at others giving their partner attention. Reassure each other about love. For sex, get the lovesense vibrators. They have a sync function that allows one person to control the pace and what they do is reciprocated with the other device. Have fun with it, stay a couple, you can make it work if you’re working toward something. Visit about every 2 months. Good luck happy to chat more.