My friends think I’m crazy because I’m willing to work all the time / give 110%, but they don’t understand that I need to do well so I can better provide for my family. I’m already making more in a week at 22 years old than my mom makes in a month, and she works way harder than I do. Just wanted to get this off my chest ha. I’m not resentful and I definitely understand the need for self care…but I’m willing to suffer in a high-paying job if it means I can provide for my family. Is this just me?🙂

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Same! I’ve been out of school 7 years now and it has all been worth it! I am finally at a place where I feel like I can relax a bit

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Congrats D1, that’s the dream!

Heavily relate to this and feel the same way!! Also 22. Both my parents work blue collar jobs and make way less together than I do. I love my friends but it’s hard to relate sometimes when a lot of them preach the “do what you love, it’s your life” stuff haha. My family is so important to me and they’ve sacrificed so much, so I make it my priority to take care of them. That said, I do hope you are taking care of your health and not killing your soul bc of work! I’m sure your parents want you to be happy and healthy too, and you have to prioritize health if you want to keep supporting them 😊

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Agreed!! I’m currently living at home because I’m paying rent for my entire family’s apartment, and my friends keep on telling me to move out because I’m “wasting” my golden years haha it’s possibly a fair argument but living up my golden years isn’t a priority of mine right now! Fingers crossed we’ll both be even more successful in the future than we are today 😊

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